Nathaneal Gay, in white wedding suit, as he and his frat brothers perform the Kappa Alpha Psi hand sign.

Denying that he ever intended his gay wedding to have any affiliation with or reflect his Kappa Alpha Psi fraternity, Nathaneal Gay appeared on the “Tom Joyner Morning Show” on Thursday, Oct. 11 2012, to refute what he called erroneous and misleading information printed in the media about his marriage to Robert Brown in Kentucky.

Gay told Joyner and the crew the following:

1. Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity was not intentionally represented in he and his partner’s wedding, saying, “there was no affiliation whatsoever to Kappa[s] in my wedding … this was not a Kappa wedding … our colors were not based off the Kappa colors like most of the articles mentioned.”

2. The colors chosen for the wedding were not chosen because they were Kappa colors, Gay insists. “My husband loves the color[s] red and white… red and white is kind of a symbol of love,” said Gay.

3. Gay told Joyner that they had no intentions of the wedding being Greek.

4. Gay and his partner, Brown, did not intentionally purposely put his own frat on blast. Although Gay and Brown put the video on YouTube, Gay believes that a rival black Greek frat reposted it for the intention of the same-sex union video to go viral, which it now has. “I have no other choice but to believe that it came from another Greek organization. They took a great day … threw it out to the media and put a huge spin on it so that it would be very controversial and it became a disgrace … or others demeaned my fraternity.”

Gay only sounded regretful because of the great cultural noise that engulfed his Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Inc. as a result of the publishing of the video.

Gay, an electrical engineer, met Brown at a Kentucky Walmart in April 2005 and have been together ever since.

As for the thundershower of reactions that this wedding and video have cause, Gay was unapologetic.

“It’s just sad that the rest of society has not caught up to our lifestyle and the decisions that we make in life … we pay our taxes just like the next man … we just look to get the same amount of respect as any individual in this world. We’re not looking to be second-class citizens in America.

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Terry Shropshire

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