Gay Kappa Groom Nathaneal Gay Speaks About His Marriage

Nathaneal Gay, in white wedding suit, as he and his frat brothers perform the Kappa Alpha Psi hand sign.

Denying that he ever intended his gay wedding to have any affiliation with or reflect his Kappa Alpha Psi fraternity, Nathaneal Gay appeared on the “Tom Joyner Morning Show” on Thursday, Oct. 11 2012, to refute what he called erroneous and misleading information printed in the media about his marriage to Robert Brown in Kentucky.

Gay told Joyner and the crew the following:

1. Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity was not intentionally represented in he and his partner’s wedding, saying, “there was no affiliation whatsoever to Kappa[s] in my wedding … this was not a Kappa wedding … our colors were not based off the Kappa colors like most of the articles mentioned.”

2. The colors chosen for the wedding were not chosen because they were Kappa colors, Gay insists. “My husband loves the color[s] red and white… red and white is kind of a symbol of love,” said Gay.

3. Gay told Joyner that they had no intentions of the wedding being Greek.

4. Gay and his partner, Brown, did not intentionally purposely put his own frat on blast. Although Gay and Brown put the video on YouTube, Gay believes that a rival black Greek frat reposted it for the intention of the same-sex union video to go viral, which it now has. “I have no other choice but to believe that it came from another Greek organization. They took a great day … threw it out to the media and put a huge spin on it so that it would be very controversial and it became a disgrace … or others demeaned my fraternity.”

Gay only sounded regretful because of the great cultural noise that engulfed his Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Inc. as a result of the publishing of the video.

Gay, an electrical engineer, met Brown at a Kentucky Walmart in April 2005 and have been together ever since.

As for the thundershower of reactions that this wedding and video have cause, Gay was unapologetic.

“It’s just sad that the rest of society has not caught up to our lifestyle and the decisions that we make in life … we pay our taxes just like the next man … we just look to get the same amount of respect as any individual in this world. We’re not looking to be second-class citizens in America.

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  1. The devil is working…these men need help…the world needs help. He speaking of his husband as if it’s the RIGHT THING to do. These men are mentality sick and caught up in the un-right. Man with Man is not right. To have sex with another man, let along marry is Sick and this world needs help.
    The devil is working…these men need help…the world needs help. He speaking of his husband as if it’s the RIGHT THING to do. These men are mentality sick and caught up in the un-right. Man with Man is not right. To have sex with another man, let along marry is Sick and this world needs help.

  2. He should be KICKED OUT of the FRAT Bothers HOOD! F’uck your rights. This ish is getting out of hand. I agree with WOW…people that are in their right minds STAND UP! Stand up for what YOU believe in…this is not RIGHT. WOW said it: Sick

  3. I don’t have anything against homosexuals. Just don’t join my Frat. You are an embarrassment and I am confident you wrote in. This gay shyt is getting out of hand. I will make white boys, GD’s, Vicelords before I except how ass niggas like this in my shyt. I wrote a letter for an ex con that has been out the pen 8 years who turned his life around and owns his own business to join an alumni chapter and he was declined but we let this bitch in based off pedigree? This dudes a dick eater! Wtf?

  4. ok, if they want to go ahead and do this then fine, good 4 for them ig. What about all of those young men like me who look up to the morals a black greek frat like Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc. has to offer. It definitely put a holt on my decision to even pledge. Knowing that the fraternity may have its stereotypes (like all D9), this effects more than just those 2 IN LOVE DUDEs out of 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,+ multiplying people in the world. Yes, these men made history, bad history on the frat in my eyes. And yes everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it is not to come off as negative. This confused the SH*t out of me and a lot of other of my friends. Though the whole Greek era might have been homophobic…THIS IS THE 21st CENTURY. So now kids are going to wonder (because all got damn kids are curious even adults) and say “I want to be GAY when I grow up” -___- r u FUCKING SERIOUS!? And you want people to say “Aww how lovely =)” >:( Yeah FUCKING right. Who would want to even go the Kappa route now after this crap. Okay their in love, Fucking yippee-Kiyae! Now, what about the future of kids, (probably used to be) potential frat members, etc. Their choice to publicize this abomination is fucking over probably the whole frat, d9, and youth. What now? Somebody PLZ tell me…

  5. One thing that we all can count on is us ALL having an opinion, both positive and negative. I’m glad that this actually happened for a few reasons. #1. All people should have the right to marry whomever they choose…including gays and lesbians. FYI, the term “marriage” is not owned by the church. # 2. No matter if its a Kappa or any other Divine Nine, we all have someone within our organizations who are either gay, lesbian, etc so why make this more than what it really is worth? # 3 We all have to go before God on our own, so we might have an opinion, but we need to all live our own lives. # 4. Kappa had only one groom who was a brother…so what? If anyone wants to join the frat or not, that’s up to them. I’m actually a proud Kappa man and I welcome Nate as my brother and I accept who he is. If you are a young man and you can look past this viral video and homophobic fears..then I will welcome you into my brotherhood, but you must know that not all members of the Divine Nine happen to be gay, lesbian, etc, but if you do come across them, we can’t alienate our brothers and sisters…that’s just honestly too tired and we need to recognize that 2013 is upon us. Wake up people and grow to a new understanding.

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