Ladies, are you being used as a sex toy?

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There are some men who will go to great lengths for sex. Check out the following ways to spot them ASAP…


You might wonder after meeting a potential “new mate”: Is he really interested in me or does he just want my goodies? This is a tough question and a situation all single women must cope with.


Knowing if a man is serious about you takes time. You need to get to know him, observe his behavior and to determine how he treats you over a period of weeks or even months. Good men take time revealing their true intentions.

So how can you know if a man just wants to get into your panties or has more serious ideas for dating you? The easiest way is by quickly spotting the signs that he is NOT serious. Here are some scenarios that indicate he’s just trying to “get some” and is not thinking long-term:


  1. He wants to watch a movie — at your place. This is a classic move for the casual guy who just wants a little somethin’ somethin’. He’s thinking while on the couch watching the movie, you’ll start to snuggle. Then one thing leads to another and before you know it, you’ll end up in the bedroom. It is very important to keep your first several dates outside of his or your home. Sometimes, once inside the home, it’s hard to resist the temptation.
  2. He pours on the charm. Be suspicious of a man who turns on the charm like a faucet. He tells you from the moment you meet, that he knows that you’re the woman for him. And you’re thinking, “How can he even say that when he doesn’t even know me?” or “This feels too good to be true” –then it probably is. I’m sorry to say that you can’t rush love and certainly, don’t confuse it for lust.
  3. He wants to cook dinner for you at your house. In your mind, you’re thinking “That’s so sweet that he wants to cook dinner for me. So romantic!” But guess what’s for dessert? You! After a nice meal and some wine or a few drinks, you’ll be more relaxed and likely to go for it when he makes his pass.
  4. He wants you to empathize with him. Some men play the sympathy card and appeal to your desire to help. He’ll tell you how his ex denied him and was emotionally and sexually cold, while gazing deep into your eyes, hoping that you’ll want to make him feel better. Please, please, please remember that any man who talks so much about his ex is not relationship ready or emotionally available for you. It’s not your duty to make up to him for what someone else did, so steer clear.
  5. He only calls late at night. He calls around 8 p.m. or later and asks what you’re doing; then wants to know if he can come over. This is the classic “booty call.” Anytime you get a late-night call asking what you’re doing, that is a man fishing for an invitation He wants you to invite him over to your home and then into your bed. Tell him it’s too late and that you need your beauty rest, then delete his number from your phone.

Now that you know five of the methods men use to get into your panties without building a relationship first, you’ll be able to spot the men who are not serious much faster.

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