Conversations like the one we were all exposed to via the Real Housewives of Atlanta with Kandi and Porsha talking about their bisexual rendezvous, have become common in today’s dating pool. If you flip through Instagram or any other social media site, you’re guaranteed to see pictures of women in suggestive poses with their girlfriends or “girlfriends”. Women’s sexuality is very ambiguous and there are definitely fewer boundaries than there are when it comes to men.
Terrica 26, says that the recent trend of bisexual or bi-curious women has made dating as a lesbian woman in Atlanta confusing, to say the least. “A lot of women are looking to experiment because it’s the “in” thing to do,” Terrica says. “I don’t believe some of them really love women like I do, they just want to appear sexy to their followers online or men they are dating.” Terrica considers herself a stud and has never had a male experience. “I’m only interested in lesbians that truly love women. I’m not open to threesomes with men or anything like that.”
Terrica is not alone in her feelings about women who pretend to be bisexual for attention or even for money. “A lot of girls are gay for pay if they are in the strip club and that’s what their male clientele want to see. There are also women who have been to jail that have been gay for the stay,” says Jazz, 27. “These girls will have a bisexual sexual experience but they don’t desire the emotional connection with women that a lesbian woman desires, it can be confusing.”
Women looking to attract attention is one factor but another factor is women looking to satisfy the desires of their boyfriend or husband. Two girls kissing or the idea of getting a girl that likes girls is a common theme in today’s hip-hop music. Sexual icons like Blac Chyna and Amber Rose make a point to suggest being bisexual in their pictures and even comments on social media. On “Love & Hip Hop’s” season finale, Peter Gunz suggested he and wife Amina had a threesome with another woman.
“My boyfriend wanted a threesome for his birthday so I agreed with the understanding that I had to pick the girl,” Shanda says. Shanda doesn’t consider herself gay or even bisexual, just suggests that she is open to having fun with her man.
Terrica disagrees. “Anytime you are engaged in sexual behavior with the same sex, that is considered gay,” she contends. One thing is for sure, today’s dating scene is a lot more complicated than your grandmother or even your mother’s dating pool
Who do you agree with? Shanda or Terrica? I’d love to hear your comments.