Cindy G Birthday Party, #ATLOrgy (Photo Source: Kundalinikak/ CIDNEY G'S 27TH BIRTHDAY SWLASH)

Cindy G Birthday Party, #ATLOrgy (Photo source: Kundalinikak/ CIDNEY G’S 27TH BIRTHDAY SWLASH)

The birthday party for #ATLOrgy hostess Cidney G is almost here and if you are a part of the invited guests, congratulations. For some guests, this is possibly their first experience for what might be group sex or an anonymous hookup and they may need some etiquette tips.

To help novice swingers, here are a few simple rules to follow:

1) Be in good shape

In a male-female-female encounter, the man has a special responsibility to maintain his erection and please multiple women. If a man is in poor physical shape with bad eating habits this could turn out to be impossible. It’s the same for a woman; she must be able to potentially satisfy two partners and her Ph balance better be right.

2) Play it safe(er)

Always use protection when having sex with multiple partners. Let’s face it, things are going to get messy as the night goes on. Minimize exposure to body fluids by using condoms and dental dams. Although the #ATLOrgy hostess Cidney G has stated condoms will be provided, bring your own, just in case. Hearing your partner say “my bad” when a free condom breaks can be worrisome.

3) Mingle before choosing your partner or partners.

In order to ensure having a good experience with a potential partner, you should meet the person in a social setting — the #ATLOrgy will have cocktails and food. You want to make sure all partners feel some sort of emotional or physical attraction.

4) You can never be too clean

Wash your body! Get between the toes and all the cracks and crevices. You can never be too clean when having sex. Also, you should use a body wash as opposed to a cologne or perfume. When using your mouth, perfumes may be bitter to the taste.

5) Stay open-minded but set boundaries

Rules should be made beforehand about what is acceptable and what is forbidden. Whether it’s double penetration, golden showers, anal sex or slapping, no one wants to be surprised. But, if your partners want to experiment and it causes no harm, why not go for it?

6) Share!

Don’t be selfish during the orgy. It is wrong to focus all your attention on one person or on yourself. In an orgy, it’s all about sharing. Play with everyone.

7) Watch your alcohol intake

There will be cocktails provided and it should be remembered that drinking lowers inhibitions. So it is important to know your limitations. It would be really embarrassing to be too drunk to perform or throwing up from mixing liquor. Moderation in all things is the key. Stick to one type of alcohol and be aware.

8) Choose your sex toys wisely

There will be sex toys provided at the orgy and If you decide to use sex toys during the orgy, think about your partners’ comfort. Very few people want to use the largest dildo available. Many women, in fact, enjoy light vibration as opposed to thrusting.

9) Do not choose a mutual friend as a partner

When you see your partner having sex with a friend, it could be a searing memory. You may, in fact, never be able to have the same level of trust and friendship that you previously enjoyed, because you can’t shake the fact that your friend had sex with multiple partners. It’s better to choose a complete stranger for orgy encounters.

10) Get tested beforehand and afterward and know your status

OK. You have showered and scrubbed yourself clean. Your next move should be to see a doctor and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases such as herpes. Cidney G told rolling out, “If you come out of there burnin’ that’s on you.”

Mo Barnes

"Mo Betta" Maurice "Mo" Barnes is a graduate of Morehouse College and Political Scientist based in Atlanta. Mo is also a Blues musician.