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Prosecutors: To Him, Her Life Was Worth $400; What Can Women Do to Protect Themselves?

Sun., Jul. 17, 2011 7:39 PM EDT
by Zondra Hughes

Prosecutors have charged Devin Bickham with the murder of Chervon Alexander.

Chervon Alexander, 29, loved her boyfriend, Devin Bickham, and reportedly wanted to marry him within a few weeks. Alexander, a recent college graduate, was seeking a job in law enforcement.

Bickham, 39, a former police officer, was already married and prosecutors charge that Bickham and his son paid a hit man $400 to kill her last week because Alexander was pressuring him about their wedding.

The official statement from the River Forest Police Department stated:

“On Thursday, July 14, River Forest detectives filed charges including first-degree murder against three men in the shooting death of 29-year-old Chervon Monique Alexander of the 1300 block of Mayfield in Chicago. Alexander was shot to death Monday night (July 11) at approximately 10:22 p.m. while she was sitting in a car parked in the 7200 block of Division Street.

The three men charged in this case include 39-year-old Devin A. Bickham Sr. and 20-year-old Devin Ardvell Bickham Jr., both of the 12800 block of Division in Blue Island, and 35-year-old Cardell Taylor of the 9400 block of South Lowe in Chicago.”

In this day and age when marriage is avoided like the plague, Alexander wanted to walk that aisle, recite those vows and go forth in her life as a married woman with Bickham at her side. Alexander had her reasons for assuming that Bickham would make a good husband.

She did not deserve to be ambushed and shot to death.

This is perhaps one of the most heartbreaking and harrowing murder cases I’ve seen because Alexander could have been any sister looking for love who, instead, met foul play.

Her plight could have just as easily been mine or my sisters’ or girlfriends because it’s just so damn easy to be misled when you’re in love.

A woman thinks that she knows all there is to know about “her man,” but it just isn’t true, no matter how many relationship books she reads or messages she covertly checks or conversations she has with him. She just doesn’t know what’s on his mind or in his heart.

When it comes to protecting yourself, the best that a woman can do is observe.

We can observe who he associates with, we can observe how he behaves around different sets of people, we can observe what he wears when he’s “hanging with the boys.” We can observe how he treats his mother, his aunt or other significant women in his existence.

We can observe how he treats his children. We can observe his spiritual core, or lack thereof.

We can observe how he responds to our needs.

We can observe what he says he’ll do and weigh that against what he actually does.

We can take stock in what our eyes, ears and gut tells us: Is he husband material? Or, is he married and dating? Does he respect human life? Or does he brag about how quickly he can snuff a n*gga out? Does he want relationship stability? Or, does he seek a sidepiece at his beck and call? Does he appreciate women? Or are we all b—— and hos?

We should observe our potential mate for as long as it takes. There’s no rush when it comes to determining if he’s the one.

When you take the time to observe a man, you are likely to find the answers you seek.

If he has a history of violence, if he’s in-between marriages, if he’s a deadbeat, and, if he’s not willing to enter into a serious relationship — and that is what you want — then the observation period should end. Now is the time for you to take action, and move on.

zondra hughes

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  • GoodReader

    What happened to his just saying, “No, I don’t want to get married?” He probably thought she was going to go ballistic and tell his wife. Dog!!! And he probably told her like so many men tell women in the beginning, “Don’t think I’m like all the other men. Don’t blame me for what some other brotha did to you.” Sad, so, so sad. And he had his son caught up in this mess!!!

    • Carmen

      I don’t understand your comment about what he could have said to her (“Don’t think I’m like all other men…”) and how it relates to this, but I agree that he probably felt trapped and promised marriage to keep her from telling his wife. It’s so sad because when most people feel trapped they panic and do outrageous things, not making an excuse. A similar situation happened last summer. :(

      • GoodReader

        Carmen, you didn’t read my post correctly…. I said he could have just said he didn’t want to get marry, THEN I went on to say a couple of things that are said early in relationships by many men, mostly in response to some of the things Ms. Hughes said in her article. No, my comments are NOT directly related to each other.

    • Kesha

      Bickham was separated from his wife and the separation was filed in his records, so there was nothing to hide from his wife.  He was just evil, plain and simple.  In my opinion, his son is just as evil.  He is no longer a child and is capable of making his own decisions.  He made the choice to act as an accessory to Chervon’s death.

      • GoodReader

        Kesha, I wasn’t saying his father forced him or anything. I just think it’s amazing that the son was even involved no matter what his age is. How does a father ask his son to help him kill his girlfriend? (Theoretical question. Not asking for an answer.)

      • GoodReader

        Kesha, I wasn’t saying his father forced him or anything. I just think it’s amazing that the son was even involved no matter what his age is. How does a father ask his son to help him kill his girlfriend? (Theoretical question. Not asking for an answer.)

    • hatebabylon101

      Lesson for all the home wreckers out there to leave married men alone 

  • http://www.facebook.com/nnenna.lovette Nnenna Lovette Graphic-webdesi

    …this is unbelievable but the sad thing is that it can happen to ANYONE…especially when relationships are based around what you SEE and what you are told. 

  • Johnny walker

    IN THIS DAY LADIES YOU NEED TO FIND CHRIST FIRST. IF HE CAN STAY A YEAR STR8 IN CHURCH THEN HE MIGHT BE OK…..

    • GoodReader

      @ Johnny. Amen. Being in church doesn’t eliminate ALL concern, but it sure does help! Women must have more “rules of thumb,” now more than ever, to try to stay safe!!!!

    • Carmen

      Partially disagree. Yes, ladies should find Christ first but men should do the same as well. It’s the man who killed the woman in this case.

      Staying in church for a year, two years, etc. doesn’t determine the fact that the man or woman makes a good partner. I’ve even read an article about a young boy who killed his mother, cut her head off , and on his way to church he dropped her head in the forest along the way. This boy was the church’s drummer. People need Christ period and all would be well.

      Best.

      • Eervin44

        Okay this stroy is creepy; the son cut the mother head off; oh my goodness….

    • Carmen

      Partially disagree. Yes, ladies should find Christ first but men should do the same as well. It’s the man who killed the woman in this case.

      Staying in church for a year, two years, etc. doesn’t determine the fact that the man or woman makes a good partner. I’ve even read an article about a young boy who killed his mother, cut her head off , and on his way to church he dropped her head in the forest along the way. This boy was the church’s drummer. People need Christ period and all would be well.

      Best.

    • hatebabylon101

      Get a life, church does not make you a better person (look at Eddie Long) you have to bring God into your life and actually see something wrong in your life and make that change. Church is only one day of the week, what are you doing with the other 6?

  • Kalillavictoria

    for the record Chervon didnt know he was married…….she was a mother, someones daughter, friend, relative and these animals took her away, no way in hell should a child be burying their mother because this piece of trash couldnt be a man and faithful. Chervon deserved way more than that and def.ly not death. I hope they burn in hell and the nerve to call the police and pretend to cry after you have sat down plotted, paid another heartless animal 200 to kill her, just garbage…….my prayers are with the entire family ^ def.ly her two children!!!!! R.I.P CHERVON U WILL TRULY B MISSED!!!!!

    • http://www.facebook.com/zondra.hughes Zondra Hughes

      Thank you so very much for weighing in, especially for acknowledging Chevron’s children, who are also victims of this senseless crime. My prayers go out to her family and friends.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tony-Vickers/100001776481803 Tony Vickers

      AMEN!

  • Anonymous

    Sad. Why killed the woman, and just be honest, I do not want to marry you. That is all he had to say, but no, he had to pay 400 dollars to someone to kill this young woman for no reason. Now, he and his son, and their associate, will possibly spend the rest of their lives in prison, for killing this young woman, when all he could have said was no. Plus, the man was already married, and should not have been with this woman in the first place. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/zondra.hughes Zondra Hughes

      Thank you.

    • GoodReader

      My point exactly, faceman!

  • Carmen

    This is yet another reason why women and men should not pursue those who are currently married. It’s best to walkway from the situation unless you have absolute “proof” that the person is filling for a divorce, not just his or her words. Sadly, this is not the first time that this has happened. It’s hard to walk away from someone you love or think you love, but if he or she is married it’s best to not even become involved with that person.

  • Carmen

    One more thing, this guy wanted to keep his affair a secret so why kill the woman and know the people would find out! Peace and love to everyone.

  • JAYNE DOH!

    SOMETHING DONT SOUND RIGHT THERE HAS TO BE MORE TO THIS STORY.
    how could he marry her when he was already married.

    • GoodReader

      Some people on here are saying that she didn’t know he was married. Others are saying he was separated. Obviously, she somehow thought he was capable of being married either because he was available or would be soon….

  • Eervin44

    ($400.00) No!   Her life is greater than money; she’s god’s child and family members are hurting deeply inside loosing a love one over this type of evil foolishness; Chervon life was taken away for $400.00 and now she’s 6ft under were family have to spend $8,000.00 to 10,000.00 for Funeral Expensive; Hell I’m sorry that’s hard money to come by I Know family around this nation we should all be in burial Insurance, some people can’t afford it; just had to say that it’s no joke; All cause of this “EVIL & CROOKY MARRIED MAN” Living a Double life and his wife who knows what she’s going thur thinking she has a faithful husband, yeah right:( god’s knows what happen when he was on the police force;  He’s Just low down and evil,…Chervon got caught up in a sticky relationship without checking out this man background, I’m so glad my father told me to always check people back ground out, never knew what he ment by that until I got caught up in abusive relationship…”Micheal Jackson wrote a true song  MAN IN THE MIRROR” Life is precious we as god children mean a lot to him..God is the only one can give life & take it cause he can and it’s who he is and my prayer goes out to Chervon Family and may she rest in peace:) A beautiful young lady:)

  • Eervin44

    ($400.00) No!   Her life is greater than money; she’s god’s child and family members are hurting deeply inside loosing a love one over this type of evil foolishness; Chervon life was taken away for $400.00 and now she’s 6ft under were family have to spend $8,000.00 to 10,000.00 for Funeral Expensive; Hell I’m sorry that’s hard money to come by I Know family around this nation we should all be in burial Insurance, some people can’t afford it; just had to say that it’s no joke; All cause of this “EVIL & CROOKY MARRIED MAN” Living a Double life and his wife who knows what she’s going thur thinking she has a faithful husband, yeah right:( god’s knows what happen when he was on the police force;  He’s Just low down and evil,…Chervon got caught up in a sticky relationship without checking out this man background, I’m so glad my father told me to always check people back ground out, never knew what he ment by that until I got caught up in abusive relationship…”Micheal Jackson wrote a true song  MAN IN THE MIRROR” Life is precious we as god children mean a lot to him..God is the only one can give life & take it cause he can and it’s who he is and my prayer goes out to Chervon Family and may she rest in peace:) A beautiful young lady:)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tony-Vickers/100001776481803 Tony Vickers

    TAKE YOUR TIME LAIDES YOU DONT KNOW IF ITS TRUE THAT YOU FOUND MR.RIGHT

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tony-Vickers/100001776481803 Tony Vickers

    TAKE YOUR TIME LAIDES YOU DONT KNOW IF ITS TRUE THAT YOU FOUND MR.RIGHT