Single Black Females in L.A.: Where Are All The Good Black Men?

Recently I took a trip to Los Angeles and it was as lovely as always. Sunny, 80-degree days and warm, breezy evenings in late November coupled with trendy hot spots and beautiful people give the city  a paradise kind of feel.

But while I was there, I remembered why I moved in the first place. I was single and had lived in L.A. for a year and the chances of finding romance and getting involved in a relationship looked bleak. While several other factors contributed to the move across country, I moved mainly to avoid being alone forever.

Finding a man in L.A. who contradicts the vacuous, self-absorbed athlete or entertainer pretty boy who is into black women is damn near impossible. If a man fitting this description does exist in the City of Angels — where is he?

I met one young woman, Danielle who is also considering moving from L.A. to the Washington, D.C. area. She is exuberant, smart and attractive — and yes, still single.  “L.A. men are not even approaching me, they’re waiting around. They’ll say that they don’t like these black women, they don’t like these overbearing women but then they lay back and let women do all the work. …  It’s like, you can’t win for losing,” laments Danielle.

After a recent visit to the Washington, D.C., area, Danielle has her mind set on moving to that locale. “I probably wouldn’t like the winters there,  but I would put up with [them] … to have a family and there is a man who’s looking to build a family,” said Danielle.

Although I’m still single in Atlanta, I have gone on twice the number of dates that I did in California — and with men who actually measure up to my standards. Moving may not be the answer for everyone looking for love but sometimes being in the right place at the right time might help. –iesha daniels