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Marriage Trend: Why the CEO Marries the Secretary

Single professional women may not find a husband in the CEO suite. So what's a sister to do?

Marriage Trend: You’re at the top of your game, and you’re ready to start a family. You go, girl.

You have the degrees on your wall. You have a career you enjoy. You have the professional accolades and authentic Gucci shades, and no one can resist your swagger.

You probably have the hot-career, cold bed affliction as well.

So, where’s your husband? You know, that dreamboat Brother that you were supposed to bump into on your way up the corporate ladder? Marriage trends defy you; chances are the men who are in your league have married the lady that waits on him at his favorite diner. Or, perhaps he’s married the lady who answers the phone at his office. Or, even the lady who cares for his children when he’s out of town.

Marriage Trend defined: In the bluntest of terms, the high profile men in your circle are marrying the help and this is nothing new.
Several years ago, New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd explained the marriage trend:

“I’d been noticing a trend along these lines, as famous and powerful men took up with the young women whose job it was to tend to them and care for them in some way: their secretaries, assistants, nannies, caterers, flight attendants, researchers and fact-checkers.

Women in staff support are the new sirens because, as a guy I know put it, they look upon the men they work for as “the moon, the sun and the stars.” It’s all about orbiting, serving and salaaming their Sun Gods.”

So, what do these women know about snagging a man of power that professional women don’t?

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  1. Anticliché on May 16, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    While these arguments are typically valid don’t ignore the fact that most men don’t necessarily care what career status/profile or material assets that a potential partner may have or not. It’s not necessarily always an insecurity issue or a control freak issue as this article is implying. Most men simply don’t seek much from a woman outside of beauty, honesty, loyalty and effort.
    Simply put, matching statuses and placing a high priority on affluence when seeking love is largely a woman’s errand.

  2. Truthsayer on August 25, 2012 at 3:00 am

    I don’t know about using the word ‘most’ personally. Not sure about most men, but smart (and non-insecure) men want smart women. For them, that’s a non-negotiable and it’s a fact that most of the women who hold blue collar jobs, assuming equal access to education, are stupid.

  3. Truthsayer on August 25, 2012 at 3:02 am

    Blue collar jobs include receptionists, nannies, caterers, flight attendants, waitress.