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Jason Collins wrong for never telling his ex-fiancee he lived a gay lifestyle?


Since announcing that he is the first openly gay athlete in professional sports, Jason Collins has been commended by many, including President Obama. But while Collins deserves to be recognized for his decision to speak out on his lifestyle, should he be held accountable for the years he chose to lie to women he developed relationships with?

According to TMZ, Collins was once engaged to former WNBA player Carolyn Moos. For eight years, the two appeared to have a loving relationship. But Collins never told Moos that he was living a gay lifestyle. She only found out days before the article was published in Sports Illustrated.

“It’s very emotional for me as a woman to have invested eight years in my dream to have a husband, soul mate, and best friend in him,” Moos said. “So this is all hard to understand.”

Collins made up several excuses on why he didn’t want to get married and eventually called the wedding off. Moos went on to say she cares about Jason and hopes that he is happy.

However, Collins’ choice to live on the “down-low” for all those years was extremely selfish and unfair to Moos.

Share your thoughts. Do you think Collins was wrong for hiding his sexuality from his fiancée, or should he be forgiven because of his recent decision?





  1. Kelly Klein on May 1, 2013 at 8:19 am

    That sure can be hard. Just like a vast majority of straight NBA player who get engaged to, and marry women yet continue to constantly sleep with countless other women. Cheating is cheating whether it’s with a man or a woman.

  2. supportjasoncollins on May 1, 2013 at 8:36 am

    Give me a break…I am sick and tired of black men in the closet being labeled as “Down Low” seriously…a white man in the closeted is simply considered “In the closet” please people…give the men a break…people come out on they own term…TMZ!!!! cant wait til your company closes down…get a life…smh

  3. Public_Programming on May 1, 2013 at 11:29 am

    I hate to break it to yall, but there’s a lot of gay brothers walking around with white chicks. Easier to hide behind an interracial relationship than risk a sister calling you out…Meanwhile the white girl is so busy thinking she’s making Black women/White men jealous she doesn’t even realize her man doesn’t like women at all. Plus many of them so busy gold diggin’ they miss the obvious. Please.. NEXT..

    • Juicy on May 1, 2013 at 12:09 pm

      LOL!!!! Interesting thought and very well may be true…

    • True Dat on May 2, 2013 at 12:16 am

      Been saying this since the late 80’s…so true!

    • Likewaterforchoc on May 2, 2013 at 11:55 am

      I have seen white women with black men who are obviously gay. When it was said that the women he dated were never told that he was gay, it did not shock me when the chick turned out to be white. It is foul that he only told her prior to his article of him coming out. When he glossed over the fact that had been engaged to a woman, I assumed that maybe it was a brief hetero relationship when he was younger and still trying to figure things out and it ended because he admitted he was gay. When I found that she invested 8 years in the relationship and he ended the engagement without telling her the truth, it changed my perception of him completely. And when he called to tell her he was gay, he did not apologize for his deception. It’s as if men get a pass for decieving the women they were involved with when they come out as gay.

      • Public_Programming on May 2, 2013 at 12:19 pm

        Exactly. He was wrong and foul for doing playing her, but on the other hand as a woman doesn’t your radar go off at some point? Things couldn’t have been right somewhere along the line (the bedroom, certain friends, conversation topics, etc.).. Some women are content with being beards. She was hoping they would marry then when he came out she could divorce him and get that doe.. smh

  4. sowhat on May 1, 2013 at 11:36 am

    First of all, he should not be praised for coming out as they say. So what you have chosen to live a life of sin. Who cares. You do not need to write a book, sing a song, go on tv and all this mess just to say you are gay. Be what you think you want to be and keep it moving. I have a problem with people thinking you deserve a metal of honor for saying you are gay. He lied to his girlfriend and lets not forget the health risk he placed her in by living on the “down low”. Do what you want but bottom line it is sin still. He needs God’s help to overcome his sexual desires. I know folk is scared to stand up for what is right but oh well.

    • Beysuslover09 on May 1, 2013 at 5:43 pm

      I certainly hope that your perfect….because every sin is the same in God’s eyes…and he will be judged differently than you and I will be. Since your so Christian..he wasn’t married to his girlfriend…so they shouldn’t have been having sex…and if the girl got anything…it was her fault for laying with a man without being bonded before God. As for you, you seem to assume that since someone is in a relationship they must have sexual intercourse, so I’m assuming you are comfortable having sex out of wedlock too..If Jason Collins is going to hell for being gay…I know 2 people that will be joining him.

    • Child_Puhleez on May 5, 2013 at 2:17 pm

      Thank you!

    • skwash30 on May 5, 2013 at 3:45 pm

      You do realize that the book of the religion your quoting is at the time it came to be the youngest religion in the world. Kinda like Scientology today. It was also written by men who aren’t perfect and may have wrote that because they themselves believed it wrong( not god but them). Also the book has been translated and rewrote by every corrupt king and queen since then. So my question to you is how right do you think you are to call it a sin?

  5. stephladydi on May 1, 2013 at 12:58 pm

    yes he was dead wrong! he lied, cheated, mislead and perpetrated a fraud. wasted YEARS of her time (which is in part her own fault for co-signing), and led her to a false hope. There’s no VALID excuse for that, regardless of the so-called reason.

  6. Ms, Diva on May 1, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    He’s a coward for deceiving her for all those years

  7. Miss 88 on May 1, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    It was especially selfish if he was sleeping with men (having unprotected sex) at the same time he was sleeping with her. He could have given her something….

    • cee jay on May 1, 2013 at 2:15 pm

      How do you know he had unprotected sex? Pure speculation?

      • Public_Programming on May 2, 2013 at 12:22 pm

        Oh trust me white gold digger from college + black athlete with a big NBA check = unprotected sex all day long. Please study that equation.

    • skwash30 on May 5, 2013 at 3:34 pm

      Are saying that gay men have more of a chance to spread diseases or would you have said the same thing if he was straight and cheating? Not attacking you in anyway just curious cause I have a dumb relative who thinks gay are the only reason we have sexually transmitted diseases.

  8. Simeon King on May 1, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    I haven’t read the Sports Illustrated article,did Jason say he was having relationships with men all this time or was he attracted to men and trying to be “straight” because he was scared to admit he’s gay? There’s a big difference between being in denial and being a cheater

  9. Beckspot on May 1, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    Please don’t make comments about sin unless you’re a virgin. Hmm – not likely!!!

  10. Beckspot on May 1, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    Please don’t make comments about sin unless you’re a virgin. Hmm – not likely!!!

  11. Lady Daai on May 4, 2013 at 12:11 am

    That’s y he picked a white woman, coz they only gold diggers anyway of the black athletes. He knew that he could bamboozle her for a long time. He couldn’t do that with a sister, she would have picked up early that he was on the DL cos he probably wasn’t throwing it down like a real black man. I say to the girl that’s on u, shouldn’t been thinking about the almighty dollar, & picked up on it. I picked up on his female mannerisms the first time I ever saw him, & that was just last week.ha ha ha

    • TheBigKing1 on May 22, 2013 at 8:12 am

      Kinda true…but he still was wrong for not telling her and deceiving her like that.

  12. Acts01 on May 6, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    Hello people! men have been sleeping with men since the second one arrived on earth! This story is beyond him not telling his girlfriend; the real gotcha is the black male athletic was the last group you would want to label “Gay”. This is specifically shattering to the Black Community which often than not display a strong disdain for Homosexuality based on their biblical beliefs! Note: Gay people aren’t saying a word but laughing at all of the craze, fear, and nonsense on something they have known for centuries. He was a closeted black man (not down low) feared of coming out in a hateful community such as what has been displayed in the last weeks. Get a life people and live your own life out loud…..!!!

  13. TheBigKing1 on May 22, 2013 at 8:10 am

    Of course he was wrong. Any deceiving a person does to another with no consideration for the other party is wrong. Plain and simple

  14. Sickandtired on June 7, 2013 at 9:42 pm

    Why is he a hero when he is nothing but a lair..He could of gave her the HIV virus, bad enough he hurt her.. what a joke.. Then I hear he says he never slept with a man… what a freaking joke…