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Tales of 2 black women connected to wealthy white men: Mellody Hobson and Vanessa Stiviano

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Let me just start by saying they have vastly differing goals and values. When I say they, I am referring to two very popular black women, Mellody Hobson and Vanessa Stiviano, who make great headlines and are connected to two very wealthy white men, legendary filmmaker George Lucas and NBA franchise owner Donald Sterling, respectively.

One power couple met at a business conference in 2006. They were engaged in January of 2013 and married that June at the Skywalker Ranch.

The second, not your traditional couple, is an alleged mistress who is self described as “Mr. Sterling’s personal assistant, his right hand, his wingman.” Stiviano tells Barbara Walters during an interview on “20/20” this past Friday about her relationship with the owner of the LA Clippers franchise, who’s been the center of mainstream media and tabloid fodder all week after leaked audio recordings revealed his unwarranted disdain for black people via racist rants.

Mellody Hobson, 44, was a self-made millionaire prior to meeting George Lucas, 69, the creator of the 34-year-old Star Wars franchise, whose net worth is $5 billion. The president of Ariel Investments, Hobson earned her AB degree from Princeton’s Woodrow Wilson School of International Relations and Public Policy. She also received honorary doctorate degrees in humanities from both Howard University and St. Mary’s College. She sits on the boards of the The Estée Lauder Companies Inc., Starbucks Corporation, Dreamworks Animation SKG and Groupon.

Vanessa Stiviano, who up until the end of this week, was simply referenced as V. Stiviano, is self made too. Hers is more of a reinvention. The model, 31, was born Maria Perez and raised in a small Section 8 home in San Antonio, Texas. Her mother is Mexican and her father is black. She changed her name from Maria Perez to V. Stiviano in 2010 because she faced racism due to her Hispanic name. Stiviano said she and Donald Sterling, 78, met while she was working for Sterling’s non-profit organization, the Donald T. Sterling Foundation and their relationship evolved “to so much more.” She denies claims she is his mistress.

Stiviano tells Walters, “He first started paying me as an employee and then he started paying me off the books.” She reportedly lives in a multimillion dollar home, has four luxury cars and is paid $240,000 for living expenses. 

“I became part of Mr Sterling’s team. I became someone who protected him, someone who took care of him, someone who watched everything he said and did, and people did not like that.”

Hobson is a woman who imparts her wisdom by serving as chairman of After School Matters, a non-profit that provides Chicago teens with high quality, out-of-school time programs. Furthermore, she is a board member of the Lucas Cultural Arts Museum, The Chicago Public Education Fund, Sundance Institute and is on the executive committee of the Investment Company Institute’s board of governors. And she has a passion for educating minorities on investing.

Stiviano has a passion for fashion, baubles and flamboyance. While shortsighted and misguided, it’s not as uncommon for women of color as we would like to think.

During a recent TED talk, Hobson admitted she too faced racism as a black woman. Fortunately, for those of us who admire her greatly and regard her a mentor and inspiration, she didn’t elect to change her name, invest in some new boobs and rely on her physicality to reach her dreams. Hobson’s mother prepared her. Once, she attended a birthday party where she was the sole black person and her mother asked: “How did they treat you?” Hobson wondered why did she ask? Her mother warned: “They will not always treat you well.”

Unfortunately for Stiviano, formerly Perez, her mother became a victim to poverty and was arrested in 2002 for making three of her kids steal $300 worth of groceries from a store.

Conditions were not great for Hobson who grew up in Chicago but every single day her mother told her, “Mellody, you can be anything. Because of those words, I would wake up at the crack of dawn and love school more than anything. Because of that, I would dream the biggest dreams. Because of that, I’m standing here today asking you to be brave for the kids of today,” she praises.

Either no one told Maria Perez she can achieve her dreams without risking her reputation and losing her soul or she just wasn’t listening.


  1. chocolatecitycom on May 3, 2014 at 1:15 pm

    How do you know she’s black? because she mention it to Sterling in the audio? or do you know her and her family? ppl are very naive. I’d like to see the receipts on how she falls under “black woman”…thank you. She’s Hispanic…and by the way looks Asian…lol

    • anthony on May 4, 2014 at 10:41 pm

      She’s half black half Mexican. Did you see her old high school pictures??? She had major plastic surgery, cheek implants and skin lightening treatments as well!!!!! Damn shame the levels we would stoop to in an effort to hide our real selves!!!

    • Likewaterforchoc on May 5, 2014 at 4:33 pm

      She has also changed her name to hide her ethnicity. It’s actually Maria Perez or something. She has a black dad and Mexican mother. She actually looked more black than anything before the surgery. Broad nose, full lips, darker skin et al.

  2. D.Sapp♚ on May 3, 2014 at 11:40 pm

    Wait V. Stiviano is “popular” for 15 seconds and now she’s being compared to a devoted wife? This comparison is elementary and sensationalized. There is no comparison, apples and oranges. I need RollingOut to do better.

    • toni wilson on May 4, 2014 at 8:11 am

      I agree! This comparison makes no sense.

    • Likewaterforchoc on May 5, 2014 at 4:30 pm

      Thank you! I can’t believe this article! Melody is not “connected” to George Lucas. SHe was first his long time and very public girlfriend and now his wife and mother to their adopted child. This other broad is a social climber/mistress/extortinist of wealthy married men. No comparison at all.

  3. toni wilson on May 4, 2014 at 8:09 am

    This article is stupid! Why are you comparing these two women who have nothing in common except having an association with a rich white man! Hobson is married, Stiviano isn’t. I don’t get the point you were trying to make with this article except to chastise Stiviano. Two women with vastly different lives, experiences, education and backgrounds.

  4. Foxy Libra on May 4, 2014 at 8:57 am

    This is the dumbest article I have seen posted on this site…????? Why even compare the two?

  5. ruserious on May 4, 2014 at 8:59 am

    click bait. article was absolutely awful and had no point to it.

  6. Morgan on May 4, 2014 at 11:05 am

    This is not a story…

  7. T Allen on May 4, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    This was your Sunday joke? This article is ridiculous!

  8. OnlineTrash on May 4, 2014 at 5:26 pm

    I wish I could smack someone for writing this garbage of an article. How do you compare a classy, self made millionaire black beauty to a gold digger trying to pass for anything but black? I thought you were going to compare her to a reality star or something.. Waste of time.. smh

  9. Eva7279 on May 4, 2014 at 5:27 pm

    @YvetteCaslin WTF were you thinking when you wrote this garbage? Why would you even say Mellody Hobsons name in the same breath as Vanessa Stiviano? These women have nothing to do with one another. Did you throw a few pieces of paper in a hat with the names of black women who are married to white men and randomly pick out one? Please unplug your laptop and have a seat. Maybe try some additional journalism courses because you seem a bit rusty.

  10. madpoet429 on May 4, 2014 at 8:44 pm

    This is a dumb ass article! These 2 women have nothing in common but white men. Hobson is self made well educated Sista and the other is “side ass”! Really ya’ll? Stop baiting readers w/ b/s!

  11. anthony on May 4, 2014 at 10:47 pm

    Damn shame at the levels we would stoop for fame, lust and material gain. V. Stiviano will be a USED UP DISTANT MEMORY WHEN HER 5 MINUTES OF FAME ARE OVER! Look at the self hate, the skin lightening and plastic surgery and the denying of her true self. Her last name is Perez…I don’t care how much she changes it…cant run from your past and identity. ON THE FLIP SIDE…Thanks Melody Hobson for being a true role model for all blacks and reaffirming that we can make it if we use our god given talents and brilliance along with perseverance and education.

  12. Mel on May 5, 2014 at 12:54 pm

    I agree with EVERYONE below. RO, who is actually approving your articles? Credibility lost! M. Hobson was a professional wealthy woman in her own right BEFORE she MARRIED her mogul husband. Really? Are these high school kids writing for you? HELP, we need an editor in the building to teach responsible journalism.

  13. Ronke on December 13, 2015 at 2:59 am

    I do not even see why the comparisons are necessary. Ms. Hobson is a self made well educated woman, why is she being compared to Ms. Vanessa Stiviano? Allegedly, Ms. Stiviano saw dollars signs around a certain window and she ran with it. I am not going to stand in judgment of her…..she has her own brand of smarts too.