7 tips to spice up your sex life

Photo by: Volodymyr Goinyk
Photo by: Volodymyr Goinyk

Keeping your relationship fresh is hard work for both parties. Even when you love your mate to the moon and back, you still need to make an effort to keep your sex life from growing stale. Here are seven tips that can unlock your relationship’s steamy potential.


  1. New Locations. Making love in different locations will definitely spice up your sex life. So try it on the stairs, the kitchen counter, closet, dining room table, your car, or in your own home while people are visiting. For one week, try various new spots in your house, excluding the bed.
  2. New Positions. Making love the same old way becomes a routine, so mix in some new, adventurous positions. Don’t expect to be porn stars, but keep your expectations realistic. Make love standing up! Be more flexible and if needed, the two of you can take a yoga class to get some added stretching.
  3. Buy Some New Toys. Not Play-Doh or Legos, but instead some adult toys! Couples do it all the time and it should create excitement buying some new things that will be used in the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to buy something that is completely over the top or doesn’t feel like you. That’s what makes it so adventurous! So, pick up some whips, hand cuffs, blindfolds, feathers or your favorite battery operated toy!
  4. Fellatio on its own shows that you love your mate. It’s a classic for a reason, so do it as often as possible. The more spontaneous, the better!
  5. Fun role-playing. What better way to spice up your relationship, than some fun, creative role-playing? Here are a few scenarios: Failing student – Just how bad do you want that A? The eager student can also incorporate detention. The applicant – What will you do to land a job? Naughty maid – The house needs to be spotless. Do you really know how to dust, mop and vacuum? Can you fold clothes while wearing your French maid uniform and stilettos?
  6. Get naughty with food. The right food can make your relationship and sex life naughtier and more exciting, at the same time. Try sucking on an ice cube, popsicle, or a peppermint patty and then either kiss or pleasure your mate. What a great sensation?
  7. Dirty talk. Dirty talk can help you feel more excited. Whether it’s under the sheets, via text or over the phone, this will definitely put you in the mood for some hanky panky. Be naughty on the phone. Tell your mate what you’d like to do to them or have some flat-out phone sex. Let them know how much you love their body. Send naughty text messages and be as graphic as you need to be.

–myra c. harris is the author of How to Get a Man: From the Kitchen, to the Bedroom, to the Ring, which can be purchased at www.letaypublishing.com.


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