Birds of a feather do flock together. Have you ever heard someone say that? Motivational speaker Jim Rohn has said that we are the sum total of the five people we hang with. What does that mean? If five of your friends are nonproductive — you will probably be the sixth. Knowing that, it is important to align yourself with people who will motivate and inspire you to be your best. It’s also a good idea to have a little variety in your crew. You can learn from people who are different from you.
Take a minute and look at the people who surround you and see if the following friends are represented:
1. The spiritual friend – Life can be tricky and full of challenges and blessings. Having a person that can feed you spiritually and keep you morally in check is very helpful.
2. The healthy friend – Living a healthier lifestyle is easier for some than others. If you know that your life would be much better if you put your health first, make sure you have someone who can help you achieve your goals.
3. The disciplined go-getter friend – If your purpose in life is to find the “next good time,” having someone to help you set boundaries and create more discipline in your life will help you stay on track.
4. The fun friend – On the flip side, if your life has become a snooze fest and hasn’t been entertaining in years — make sure you have friends who will help you get out and enjoy life.
5. Your work and school friend – Career and school life can be both rewarding and tough. Find someone who can relate to the work you do, believes in you, and has even walked the path you want to walk.
6. Family – There is nothing like having the unconditional love of family. Not all family members will be in your corner, but the ones that do will have your back on a deeper level.
7. The “good in relationships and love” friend – Wouldn’t life be easier if there was a book or an app to help us figure out our love life? Unfortunately for many, figuring out dating and marriage is like being dumped in a jungle and finding your way home. Find a person that has had some success in these areas. If you want to be married, connect with a married friend who’s in a solid marriage. If you are dating and need help, find a friend who’s comfortable with dating.
Having the right people in your corner will make life much easier. We all know that having the wrong people around us can be a game changer. Good luck putting together the right crew for you. Who are you hanging with?
Courtney Bell is passionate about helping people achieve their goals. She is a life coach, professor, and blogger with over 10 years of experience creating strategies for adults and students to live the lives they desire. Courtney currently lives in Chicago. Like her Facebook page – Courtney Bell Coaches and follow her on Twitter and Instagram at @cbellcoaches