Merriam-Webster defines soul mate as a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament.
Although most people think of a soul mate as a perfect harmonious union, your true spiritual soul mate is the person who completes you. Everyone needs someone to help them become a better person. However, oftentimes our soul mates appear in disguise. You may not even be physically attracted to the person in the beginning, but your gut feeling is telling you that “this is the right one” and is forcing you to reach out to them. So, if you’re ready to open your heart to amazing possibilities, you may luck up and find “the one.” You know you’ve found your soul mate when:
Your paths have crossed before. Soul mates have met before. You may not have connected, but you were at the same place, at the same time. However, you didn’t meet until the time was right.
You feel each other’s pain. You know your mate so well, that you can stand in each other’s shoes. You can even feel your mate’s feelings of worry, stress and sadness. You also share in each other’s joy and happiness.
You know each other’s flaws and the benefits of them. Believe it or not, our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive and negative side. It’s the task of each mate to look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. For example, highly organized people are great at paying bills on time and stubborn people are good decision makers.
You have the same aspirations and goals. You’re both on the same page with values, ethics and goals. You may have a different path for achieving them, but you both want the same results.
You don’t have insecurities. Your handsome or pretty manager at work or your personal trainer shouldn’t pose a threat to your relationship. You should be secure knowing that you are the only one.
You don’t curse, scream or threaten to break up. Every relationship experiences highs and lows, but you should never intentionally try to hurt your mate. Soul mates are never nasty, hurtful or malicious.
You know how to apologize. We all know that it’s no easy task (for some of us) to apologize and admit when we are wrong, especially when we’ve hurt our loved one. Soul mates realize that their actions or words caused harm and can easily apologize for the harm that they’ve caused.
You complete each other. If you start a sentence, your partner is able to complete it. Soul mates complete each other, they have yin and yang. One mate is outgoing and an extreme extrovert, while the other doesn’t care to interact with a lot of people and finds excitement being at home. Opposites really do attract!
Being in his or her arms takes away all the stress, cares and worries. There’s no place you’d rather be, than lying in your mate’s arms. If you had a rough day at work, the washing machine stopped working or you had a fender bender — all of these worries disappear the second you are wrapped up in your mate’s arms. Something about your soul mate connection gives you inner peace that you can both feel.
So, rolling out readers, is your mate your soul mate?
–myra c. harris is the author of How to Get a Man: From the Kitchen, to the Bedroom, to the Ring, which can be purchased at www.letaypublishing.com.