Mo’Nique’s recent comments regarding allowing her husband of nearly a decade, Sidney Hicks, a “hall pass” to sleep with other people was taken the wrong way, according to the comedienne. She jumped on Periscope to address her fans and let them know that it wasn’t Hicks who initiated the rules for their open marriage.
“When I say I’m in an open marriage, it was not my husband’s idea,” Mo’Nique said in the clip, which she filmed in her car. “Originally it was my idea because at the time when Sid and I got together 10 years ago — now keep in mind this was my best friend since I was 14 — but when we first got together I was still stuck in being famous and a celebrity and being a star, and I felt like I could have whatever I want. So I was still in an insecure place of, ‘I can have that, I can have that, I can have that.’ And because I was dealing with my best friend, my best friend said, ‘If that’s what you think you need, as your best friend, I don’t want to stand in the way of it.’”
The 47-year-old actress found it interesting that everyone automatically assumed it was her husband who was having relations outside of the marriage, instead of suspecting that it could have been her.
“It makes me laugh when people put it all off on my husband as if it was something he was doing,” she said. “It was my idea. That’s how I felt back then … but what I didn’t want to do with my best friend was to be sneaking or cheating, so we had open and honest dialogue, which unfortunately some of us are so afraid to have.”
Mo’Nique added that she does not use the term “pass” to describe the agreement she and her husband have in their open marriage.
“We don’t give each other passes to cheat, because when you cheat, you lie, when you lie, you steal,” she said.
She then addressed those who were slamming her relationship.
“I’d like to ask those people who are so up in arms about it, what kind of relationship do you have? And when you’re focused on yours, you don’t have enough time to be focused on anyone else’s.”
Interesting enough, Mo’Nique and her husband will be hosting a radio show starting New Years Day called Mo’Nique and Sidney’s Open Relationship. The couple will discuss what they do and have done to maintain their long-lasting marriage.
“Open means we’re open-minded to the world,” she explained. “That’s what we’re open to. We are open to being honest to each other all the way through.”