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Mo’Nique says she wanted an open marriage, not her husband

Sidney Hicks and Mo'Nique (Photo source: Jacob Kohinoor via Youtube screenshot)

Sidney Hicks and Mo’Nique (Photo source: Jacob Kohinoor via Youtube screenshot)

Mo’Nique’s recent comments regarding allowing her husband of nearly a decade, Sidney Hicks, a “hall pass” to sleep with other people was taken the wrong way, according to the comedienne. She jumped on Periscope to address her fans and let them know that it wasn’t Hicks who initiated the rules for their open marriage.

“When I say I’m in an open marriage, it was not my husband’s idea,” Mo’Nique said in the clip, which she filmed in her car. “Originally it was my idea because at the time when Sid and I got together 10 years ago — now keep in mind this was my best friend since I was 14 — but when we first got together I was still stuck in being famous and a celebrity and being a star, and I felt like I could have whatever I want. So I was still in an insecure place of, ‘I can have that, I can have that, I can have that.’ And because I was dealing with my best friend, my best friend said, ‘If that’s what you think you need, as your best friend, I don’t want to stand in the way of it.’”

The 47-year-old actress found it interesting that everyone automatically assumed it was her husband who was having relations outside of the marriage, instead of suspecting that it could have been her.

“It makes me laugh when people put it all off on my husband as if it was something he was doing,” she said. “It was my idea. That’s how I felt back then … but what I didn’t want to do with my best friend was to be sneaking or cheating, so we had open and honest dialogue, which unfortunately some of us are so afraid to have.”

Mo’Nique added that she does not use the term “pass” to describe the agreement she and her husband have in their open marriage.

“We don’t give each other passes to cheat, because when you cheat, you lie, when you lie, you steal,” she said.

She then addressed those who were slamming her relationship.

“I’d like to ask those people who are so up in arms about it, what kind of relationship do you have? And when you’re focused on yours, you don’t have enough time to be focused on anyone else’s.”

Interesting enough, Mo’Nique and her husband will be hosting a radio show starting New Years Day called Mo’Nique and Sidney’s Open Relationship. The couple will discuss what they do and have done to maintain their long-lasting marriage.

“Open means we’re open-minded to the world,” she explained. “That’s what we’re open to. We are open to being honest to each other all the way through.”


  1. lilkunta on November 21, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    #STOPIT. monique do you really want to step back into the spotlight this way? Via personal life issues instead of via new roles? Focus on your craft. ACTING.

    • BigMeach on November 23, 2015 at 5:32 am

      Unfortunately, this particular discussion has been a part of her career since she and Sid made it official to the public that they are an item.

      This is NOT an attempt to get BACK in the spotlight, however, I will say that THIS IS WHAT THE PUBLIC CONTINUES TO FOCUS ON BECAUSE SHE HAS TO DEFEND HER POSITION ON THIS ISSUE. which keeps her away from TOTALLY focusing on her acting career.

  2. Kandie J Mack on November 22, 2015 at 6:28 pm

    That’s still her opinion..and while she explicitly other may be afraid to allow certain things within their relationships..again people still do not know about their relationship no more than she of others!

    Then she goes on to state that she’d like to ask of others relationships that’s having a problem with her choice. However she is the one whom felt it necessary to share with world!

    Keep your back yard gated and sealed and no one will peer in and comment!!!

    I myself really could care less about what anyone chooses to do within the perimeters of their relationship!!

    I do love to comment though…lol