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Amber Rose gets real about sexual consent

Amber Rose

Photo Credit: Amber Rose’s Instagram (amberrose)

Over the past year, Amber Rose has tirelessly transformed her image from that of just being the girlfriend to a number of hip-hop stars to that of an independent woman espousing new-age feminist ideals. So, it comes as no surprise that when Rose appeared on Tyrese Gibson and Rev. Run’s new OWN talk show, “It’s Not You, It’s Men,” she wasn’t afraid at all to challenge stereotypes about sexuality and get real with the guys about the concept of consent.

In a preview clip of Rose’s episode, which will air later tonight, Saturday, Feb. 20, Gibson spoke with Rose about women who wear sexy dresses in clubs. Gibson explained that he believes that men who try to grab women in those revealing dresses are no different than men who go to a basketball court and try start a pickup game with another man dressed in a basketball jersey.

Gibson’s comments didn’t sit well with Rose and she decided to break down his claim and explain to him why those two situations aren’t fairly comparable at all.

“That’s not the same thing, Tyrese. Ya’ll know that,” Rose said.

The How To Be A Bad B—h author then gave an example to explain that showing skin doesn’t equate to giving someone consent to sex.

“If I’m laying down with a man, butt naked, and his condom is on, and I say, ‘Uou know what, no, I don’t wanna do this. I changed my mind,’ that means no. That means f—— no, that’s it,” Rose said.

“It doesn’t matter how far I take it or what I have on. When I say no, it means no,” she added.

Run then chimed in and said, “I’ve heard a quote that said, ‘Dress how you want to be addressed,’ and it’s just, there’s some validity to that.”

That comment didn’t sit well with Rose either and she schooled him as well on the reality of consent and the trap of falling into the “blame the victim” mentality when talking about consent and sexual harassment and assault.

“Oh, boo! That’s not realistic. Stop it,” Rose said. “If I want to wear a short skirt or a tank top, and I’m at the club and I’m having fun with my friends and I feel sexy, I’m not DTF. I didn’t come here to have sex. I didn’t come here to hook up with nobody. I came out here with my girls and I just feel pretty. I’m not ‘asking for’ nothing.”

Despite her strong conviction and pointed tone, Rose told the guys that she wasn’t angry with them.

“I’m not mad at y’all,” she tells them. “That’s how society raised all of us.”

Well, clearly this is going to be one interesting conversation. What do you think about Rose’s thoughts? Let us know in the comments.


3 Comments

  1. Valica96 on February 22, 2016 at 8:09 am

    As a female, the dress comment does hold true. Dress how you want to be treated. Yes, can change your mind, but you should know who DEALING with when say it. You’re naked, condom on, you may get raped

    • guest on February 22, 2016 at 10:02 am

      You should thank God that you were blessed with common sense, it’s rare these days.

  2. guest on February 22, 2016 at 1:35 pm

    I hate that those two actually made her look smart