Venerated Black restaurateur and businesswoman B. Smith is so beloved that she has even been called the “Black Martha Stewart.” But the legendary culinary connoisseur has fallen on misfortune in recent years as she has been stricken with Alzheimer’s disease.
To exacerbate her living conditions, her husband, Dan Gasby, 64, has moved his White girlfriend, Alex Lerner, 53, into their home because his wife doesn’t remember who she is. However, since he shared this very atypical story with the Washington Post, none of them are living in peace, not even close.
The public backlash against Gasby on social media has been predictably ferocious and unrelenting, with charges that he has always cheated on B. Smith, that he and his mistress are spending up Smith’s fortune and that they are living off her empire and brand name. And those are the nicer comments.
B. Smith’s husband is trash. Point blank. Married is still married. 🤷🏽♀️
— saucy (@korafbaby) January 29, 2019
What’s wild is B.Smith’s name is still being used. She has products in Bed Bath and Beyond. I also use to watch her show. I was saddened when she got sick, but this story is just YUCK! #LRT
— Kasey (@bastylefilegirl) January 29, 2019
The blowback has been so intense that Gasby has tried to defend himself on Facebook by firing back at the legion of haters:
To the nickel & dime PayPal thot troll named after two European cities B lived in and all of us have travelled too extensively, to the writer and editor at The Neg-Grio! Who ginned up controversy by covertly spewing racist innuendo, to the bloggers who wallow in the mud and filth of lies, to the idiots and ignorant people calling for my arrest and saying B is or has ever been abused I only wish someone in your immediate family has Alzheimer’s so you can see feel and experience the pain of millions of people across this country so you can know first hand what it’s like to care 24/7/365 for someone who can no longer care for themselves!
“And last of all but to me least of all to those religious Neanderthal who judge as if Jesus was a ball and God is a bat swinging wildly and judging harshly I say to you!
“B. Smith’s worst day is 10x better than you’ve experienced.
“I love my wife but I can’t let her take away my life!
“5-10 years from now when many of you who will have an almost predestined meeting with Alzheimer’s because of genetics, obesity, and a myriad of inflammatory diseases, you’ll be wishing for someone to share moments with and ease the pain of loneliness and despair.
“The clock is ticking I know I can and have manage this but can you do it too?”
The husband’s explanation for why he would move a White woman into the home he shared for nearly three decades with his wife did not tamp down the hate. In fact, it only intensified it.
Furthermore, as he prepares to appear on Dr. Oz on Tuesday to rationalize his decision to move in another woman into the home that he still shares with his stricken wife, he says that he has been subjected to death threats for going public with the relationship.
Check out the preview of the episode on “Dr. Oz” along with a sampling of the public repulsion directed at Gasby.
Here is just a small portion of the responses that Gasby has been fielding the past day or two, which does not include the heat-seeking rage he’s gotten on Instagram and Facebook:
There are so many ways that B. Smith’s husband could have found love and support with the person of his choosing without this raggedy spectacle that would surely have humiliated a woman who built an empire based on social graces and good taste.
— Jamilah (Ja-MEE-Lah) 💗💚 (@JamilahLemieux) January 30, 2019
bsmith’s husband moving a lover into the marital home while she has Alzheimers is the most disrespectful and disgusting thing I’ve heard come out of a 20+yr marriage. Hope fam can help her. P.S.- bsmiths was one of my fav brunch spots when in dc.
— truthspeaker (@drtruthspeaker) January 30, 2019
Even if B.Smith gave her husband permission to have a girlfriend once her disease got worse
🗣 THE OPTICS
It’s gross and disrespectful to B’s legacy as a beauty and business icon.
— Carlos Harris (@PushaCeeeeee) January 30, 2019
I grew up idolizing B.Smith and have been worried about her since her diagnosis was announced. I hate that this is part of her narrative now. She should be talked about as an o.g. lifestyle guru and restaurateur not partner to a messy husband.
— korsha wilson (@korshawilson) January 28, 2019
I imagine B Smith hates the fact that someone is writing about her private affairs ( for their FOR-PROFIT newspaper) more than her husband having a relationship. pic.twitter.com/QxutoOuASe
— Nazita Gamini (@NayziFace) January 29, 2019
I pray for #BSmith! Her Husband Dan Gasby and mistress Alex Lerner are terrible human beings! I know B smith got distance relatives and need check her overall health make sure these two jokers arent accelerating her illness or draining her money!
— The_Page_of_Eli (@AutoPhileNoire) January 29, 2019
just read that b smith article and i’m pissed. she deserves so much better. her husband is beyond wild
— eb & flow (@ebbonitapplebum) January 29, 2019
B. Smith's sorry excuse for a husband needs his face smashed in.
— A guy named CJ who writes (@CJWritesNThangs) January 29, 2019