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Women with love PTSD put up partitions

More and more women are tired of dead-end relationships. They have endured one toxic situation after another. They have taken chance after chance on love, only to end up with feelings of emptiness, hopelessness, and loneliness. It often leads to

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Why so many men are emasculated

The other day I was surfing the Internet and I came across a post that really spelled out a major societal issue with a simple statement. It is easy for young males to grow up and neglect to take part

An even swap ain’t no swindle

There was a point in my life when I used to feel sorry for men that I personally knew being used for their money and connections. But recently I have taken a different perspective. They are grown men and at

This is getting ridiculous

Day after day after day, I receive advice emails from women who are in the most ridiculous of situations with men. Often the men are at least 10-25 years their senior, still living from pillar to post, but their sex game

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Well, at least I’m getting out of the house

Dating can be quite expensive these days. Forty dollars for a movie, including concessions. One hundred dollars or more for dinner, including drinks. Tack on gas, valet or garage parking, and getting prepared with visits to the barber or hair

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Is there ever a point to fighting for a relationship?

When you realize that the person you are with is interested in someone else, there are truly only a few options. Some people convince themselves that their mate is merely having sex with someone else without having feelings attached. They

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Vagina: To clean or not to clean

Recently, I received an email from a woman who said that she does not believe in washing her vagina because it is self-cleaning and using soaps can kill off all the good and healthy bacteria. Her theory is that the

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Do you need a new bed?

There was a recent debate in one of my social media groups. This is the question that was posed: You’re dating someone, things get serious and the two of you start to talk about moving in together. However, your mate insists on

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Long-distance relationships

The Internet has done a lot of positive things for people over the past two-and-a-half decades. One of the biggest things has been expanding a person’s dating pool by at least a thousand times; possibly more. Dating sites geared toward

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Complaining about someone but dating them anyway

There are a lot of people in the world who are currently attached to someone they can’t stand for various reasons. They are no longer in love with the person, or never loved them at all. They are no longer attracted

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Why so many hot women can’t get a hot date

Not a week, or even day, goes by when I don’t receive emails on top of emails from attractive, successful and stable women who can’t seem to get a date to save their lives in their local area. Yet, many

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Is there a double standard when it comes to porn?

Dear Zane, I watch “a lot” of porn. I watch it on my phone, my tablet and my computer. I watch it on free sites and will sometimes purchase scenes from this bondage site. Some days when I am out

Let’s talk about memes

Sometimes I cringe when I see certain memes. Not all because some are mad funny. I am talking about the ones that were obviously created by bitter women and men who have made wrong decisions when it comes to love

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Rearranging deck chairs; just let go and move on

This past weekend, I was awakened at 3:30 a.m. by a couple arguing out in the middle of the street. There were a lot of expletives tossed back and forth between the two of them in about three or four

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Kissing your ex’s cousins, siblings, aunts, uncles

I am absolutely stunned by the amount of people who find it acceptable to date, marry, impregnate, or simply slap skins with someone related to their exes. Recently, I heard about a man who was married for decades, had children

What happened to chivalry?

Heads up! Some men might find this offensive, but so what? I travel a lot and in my journeys of planes, trains, and automobiles — even ships — I have noticed a disturbing trend over the past decade or so.

They had you at hello

Today, I want to speak about a trend that I see in a lot of women, especially those who are “nesters” and feel incomplete without a man. I am talking about women who entertain the advances of every single man

Dirty little secrets: Are you one of them?

Recently, I made a post asking people if they had ever been in a secret relationship, meaning had they dated someone who never introduced them to their friends or family members for a long period of time. Surprisingly, many people

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Dating while living with your parents

With the economy in its current state, more and more people are living at home with their parents to make ends meet. It can make dating a challenge for several reasons. If you meet someone who has their own place