Zane, Author at Rolling Out

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More and more women are tired of dead-end relationships. They have endured one toxic situation after another. They have taken chance after chance on love, only to end up with feelings of emptiness, hopelessness, and loneliness. It often leads to depression, which can lead to therapy and having to be medicated. Women who started off…

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The other day I was surfing the Internet and I came across a post that really spelled out a major societal issue with a simple statement. It is easy for young males to grow up and neglect to take part in raising their kids — financially, physically and emotionally — because that is the sense of normalcy for many…

There was a point in my life when I used to feel sorry for men that I personally knew being used for their money and connections. But recently I have taken a different perspective. They are grown men and at the end of the day, an even swap ain’t no swindle. When a man is…

Day after day after day, I receive advice emails from women who are in the most ridiculous of situations with men. Often the men are at least 10-25 years their senior, still living from pillar to post, but their sex game is so strong, the women are delusional. The women believe that they can change the…

Pregnant woman

Over the years, this topic has come up over and over in my advice emails. If a woman is pregnant by one man but intimately involved with another, the majority of people think she is a THOT, whore, and way too promiscuous. Now there may be certain instances where that might be the case, such…

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Dating can be quite expensive these days. Forty dollars for a movie, including concessions. One hundred dollars or more for dinner, including drinks. Tack on gas, valet or garage parking, and getting prepared with visits to the barber or hair salon, or a new outfit, and one date can add up to a decent utility…

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When you realize that the person you are with is interested in someone else, there are truly only a few options. Some people convince themselves that their mate is merely having sex with someone else without having feelings attached. They believe that as long as they have the strings on the person’s heart, that is…

woman in tub

Recently, I received an email from a woman who said that she does not believe in washing her vagina because it is self-cleaning and using soaps can kill off all the good and healthy bacteria. Her theory is that the vagina is self-cleaning and insisted that her doctor told her not to wash it on…

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There was a recent debate in one of my social media groups. This is the question that was posed: You’re dating someone, things get serious and the two of you start to talk about moving in together. However, your mate insists on getting a new bed because they refuse to sleep in a bed you had sex…

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The Internet has done a lot of positive things for people over the past two-and-a-half decades. One of the biggest things has been expanding a person’s dating pool by at least a thousand times; possibly more. Dating sites geared toward every niche area of dating (race, sexual orientation, age, religion, location, etc.), social networks, and…

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There are a lot of people in the world who are currently attached to someone they can’t stand for various reasons. They are no longer in love with the person, or never loved them at all. They are no longer attracted to the person, or they were never attracted to them at all. They can’t stand…

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Dear Zane, I watch “a lot” of porn. I watch it on my phone, my tablet and my computer. I watch it on free sites and will sometimes purchase scenes from this bondage site. Some days when I am out of school, I’ll sit and watch it for hours while I constantly masturbate. The thing…

black couple fight

This past weekend, I was awakened at 3:30 a.m. by a couple arguing out in the middle of the street. There were a lot of expletives tossed back and forth between the two of them in about three or four rounds over a half-hour period. The gist of it was that she was demanding that…

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I am absolutely stunned by the amount of people who find it acceptable to date, marry, impregnate, or simply slap skins with someone related to their exes. Recently, I heard about a man who was married for decades, had children and grandchildren with a woman, and then married her first cousin after their divorce. Yes,…

Heads up! Some men might find this offensive, but so what? I travel a lot and in my journeys of planes, trains, and automobiles — even ships — I have noticed a disturbing trend over the past decade or so. I see men sitting on their behinds while women — sometimes elderly women at that…

Today, I want to speak about a trend that I see in a lot of women, especially those who are “nesters” and feel incomplete without a man. I am talking about women who entertain the advances of every single man who shows them the slightest bit of attention. Even if they are not attracted to…

Recently, I made a post asking people if they had ever been in a secret relationship, meaning had they dated someone who never introduced them to their friends or family members for a long period of time. Surprisingly, many people admitted that they had indeed faced that kind of scenario. One woman said that she…

Black woman with parents

With the economy in its current state, more and more people are living at home with their parents to make ends meet. It can make dating a challenge for several reasons. If you meet someone who has their own place and is financially stable, they may frown upon the fact that you live with a…