There is no feeling more powerful than being “in love.” For those who feel they are in love, the object of their affection can do no wrong. What most people aren’t aware of is that this euphoric feeling is the result of a hormone released by the brain. Most individuals describe being in love as an uncontrollable desire to please the person who holds their heart in his or her hands. They open up without thinking twice and they will stop at nothing to make that person happy. However, it is important to realize that circumstances outside of their control have occurred.
According to Donatella Marazziti at the University of Pisa in Italy, the early stages of romantic love begin with the release of phenylethylamine (PEA), which is also present in small amounts in chocolate. This chemical is likely triggered when two people find themselves attracted to each other. Marazziti discovered that during the early stages of “being in love” serotonin levels are low, which causes people to obsessively think about, want to be around and consistently reflect on romantic events spent with their beloved. Interestingly, while conducting research, Marazziti discovered that there was a decrease in testosterone, for men, but an increase for women.
We are under the influence of the side effect of a chemical process occurring in the body. According to Marazziti’s study, the euphoria subsides on average after two years. The good news is that real love does exist but it is not experienced overnight. The development of true love takes time and it is not until real love enters the relationship — not its cousin, infatuation — that one should make any major decisions with one’s life, especially concerning marriage. For some, the romantic feelings of being in love wear off within nine months, for others it takes many years.
When true love shows up, you will commit to love this person in spite of their faults. You will know that you have passed the “in love” stage when your beloved is no longer the person you evaluate through rose-colored glasses. In your right mind, you know that you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life without them. If you have seen the good and the bad and still chosen to love them, then you should you say, “I do.” At that point, the relationship has a chance of withstanding the test of time.
–shay williams-garrett
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Shay Williams-Garrett aka Shay Your Date Diva is the a speaker and author of “DIVA Don’t Get Played!” and “Mommy DIVA Don’t Get Played!” both dating guides for catching the man of your dreams in 30 days!
