He blames black men.
African American author Steven James Dixon, who penned the controversial “Men Don’t Heal, We Ho: A Book about the Emotional Instability of Men” talks about helping men transform from “hos,” “pimps” and “playas” into successful husband and fathers with God as the central guiding force in their lives.
“I speak directly to single women, single men, wives and husbands,” Dixon says. “The book is about men because the emotional stability of the man is the key element to having a successful relationship. If we get the men right, the women will fall in line.”
Dixon, a Dallas-based relationship expert, endured a horrid first marriage and well on his way to wrecking his second union when he suddenly had a life-altering epiphany.
“I was married the first time when I was 23 years old. I didn’t know what I was doing. This time [the second marriage], we were having some problems, and that’s when I finally did some self-evaluation and stopped blaming women,” Dixon said on “The Tom Joyner Morning Show.” “And I said to myself, ‘Steven you gotta get a close relationship with God.’ When I started following God, my woman started following me.’”
The book answers several questions for women, Dixon claims: Why your boyfriend won’t make you his wife. Why you might not want your boyfriend to be your husband. Why you are single while she is married. How to get a man and keep a husband. How to be the best wife that you can be.
Saying that “black married men don’t challenge the book” and that “single black men don’t understand” it, Dixon said the book will answer the following questions for both groups: Why you are not ready to get married. Why your homeboy is cheating on his wife. How you can have a happy marriage. What is expected of you as a husband. How to be emotional and still maintain your manhood.
Leading by example, guided by God’s moral compass, Dixon was able to focus on being a much better husband and man. “This is my second marriage. I’m not getting married again. This is it. It’s a wrap. I love my wife. My wife and I are great now. And it’s because of my leadership and my direction that I follow God. I wouldn’t have gotten it right if I didn’t follow God.” –terry shropshire
