It’s time for another edition of Rapid-Fire Love, which is the perfect opportunity to get a few love-related topics off my chest. So here goes, but just know that I reserve the right to expound on any of these topics at a later date. With that being said, it’s time for me to empty this love clip. POW.
**I wish more women would examine their circle of friends and kick out that one angry friend. You know the one I’m talking about … she’s the one that when a guy approaches you, she shuts them down by rolling her eyes and snorting, “SHE’S FINE, NO THANK YOU!!!”
But wait; why is she answering for you? I think we both know the answer to that question. It’s time to drop the friend that wants to keep the whole group single.
**In a classic chicken-egg debate, I’m curious to know which came first … the gold digger who only dates rich men, or the guy who throws money at women because he has nothing else to offer?
The origin of this problem may never be discovered, but both sides are equally responsible for the superficiality tone that many of today’s relationships take. They’re insistence on basing the merits of a relationship on money is beginning to rub off on the general public, I’m growing tired of it. It’s time for us to refuse that trend, and base new love on things more substantive.
**I’ve always been fascinated by women, who when meeting a new man, constantly suggest to him that it’s only a matter of time before he finally cheats and becomes like “every other guy.” When it eventually happens and she moves on to the next guy, she again tells him the same story: “Things are good now, but I know the real you will eventually come out.”
Thus, the cycle continues.
What these women don’t understand, is that they’re creating an atmosphere of distrust, and giving the man no reason to desire faithfulness. Listen; I totally understand being a bit guarded during the honeymoon phase of a relationship, but the constant preaching of impending doom and gloom actually increases the chances of him cheating.
Not saying that positive speak will always prevent bad things from happening, but it does promote a level of trust that can’t be established when you’re constantly giving the “the good times can’t last forever” speech. So do me a favor, and think about that the next time you get ready to verbalize your disbelief in his long-term sincerity.
My clip is empty for now, but I’ll be back soon with more Rapid-Fire Love. –dewayne rogers
**DeWayne Rogers is the author of The Fly Guy Chronicles; your in-depth guide to love, relationships and everything hazy in between.
