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Excuses men use to run from strong women

Understanding these excuses can help strong women navigate their relationships with more clarity and confidence
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Strong women often face unique challenges in the dating world. Despite their confidence, independence, and ambition, these qualities can sometimes intimidate potential partners. Men, in particular, might feel overwhelmed or threatened by a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to go after it. This dynamic can lead to various excuses men use to distance themselves from strong women. Understanding these excuses can help strong women navigate their relationships more clearly and confidently.


Fear of inadequacy

One of the most common excuses men use is rooted in a fear of inadequacy. A man may feel he doesn’t measure up when encountering an exceptionally successful, intelligent, or independent woman. This feeling of inadequacy can manifest in various ways, including making excuses to avoid more profound commitment.


  • “I need to focus on my career right now.” While focusing on one’s career is a legitimate priority, it can also be a convenient excuse to avoid confronting feelings of inadequacy. Men might feel they need to achieve a certain level of success before they can be with a strong woman, leading them to push her away.
  • “I’m not ready for a serious relationship.” This excuse often masks the fear that a strong woman will expect too much from him. Meeting her high standards can be daunting, prompting him to retreat.

Fear of losing control

Strong women often have a clear sense of direction and are unafraid to take the lead in their lives. For some men, this can be unsettling, as it challenges traditional gender roles and the notion of male dominance.

  • “You’re too independent.” Independence is a prized trait in a strong woman, but it can be intimidating for some men. They might feel there is no room for them to play a significant role in her life, leading them to distance themselves.
  • “I need someone who makes me feel needed.” This excuse highlights the discomfort some men feel when they perceive that a strong woman doesn’t rely on them. The desire to feel needed can drive them to seek more dependent partners.

Insecurity and self-esteem issues

Insecurity and low self-esteem can also play a significant role in why men run from strong women. When a man’s self-worth is tied to being the more dominant partner, encountering a strong woman can shake his confidence.


  • “You deserve someone better.” This excuse reflects a man’s internal struggle with self-worth. He might genuinely believe he is not good enough for her, leading him to leave the relationship.
  • “I feel like I’m holding you back.” Similar to the previous excuse, this one stems from insecurity. A man might fear that he cannot keep up with a strong woman’s pace or contribute equally to the relationship.

Fear of intimacy

Strong women often have clear expectations and are not afraid to communicate them. This can be daunting for men who have a fear of intimacy or are not ready to open up emotionally.

  • “I don’t want to get hurt.” Fear of vulnerability can lead men to put up barriers. The prospect of getting close to a strong woman who knows what she wants can be intimidating, leading them to end things preemptively.
  • “I need time to figure things out.” This excuse often signals a reluctance to engage in the emotional intimacy that a strong woman might seek. Men might need time to accept their feelings before fully committing.

Societal expectations and gender norms

Societal expectations and traditional gender norms can influence men’s behavior toward strong women. The pressure to conform to specific roles can lead to discomfort and excuses for avoiding strong women.

  • “You’re too much for me.” This excuse reflects the societal conditioning that men should be the dominant partners. A strong woman’s assertiveness and ambition can be perceived as “too much,” prompting men to retreat.
  • “I’m not used to women like you.” This excuse underscores the clash between traditional gender roles and modern relationships. Men are conditioned to expect certain behaviors from women and might struggle to adapt to a strong woman’s approach.

Understanding the excuses and finding genuine appreciation

Navigating the dating world as a strong woman comes with unique challenges. Understanding men’s excuses to run from strong women can provide valuable insight into the dynamics at play. By recognizing these excuses, strong women can better understand their partners’ behavior and make more informed decisions about their relationships. Ultimately, the key lies in finding a partner who appreciates and embraces their strength rather than feeling threatened.

This story was created using AI technology.

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