People will attack her maliciously, and have negative rude and unkind things to say. The reflection and the idea of what a black woman has come to be is often not alarming enough to our community.
Sex is apparently the new currency for people who have nothing to say and choose to communicate in an unscrupulous way. Sex is what bored people do when they have no other place to be or no means to pay their way. Sex is what is warping our children and causing them to go astray. Sex will be the death of us if it continues in this promiscuous flow.
Kandi sat with me and dispelled the rumors about her involvement with Usher and his wife and how her responses had been blow out past real life. As a man I have to wonder why it is that when the Internet gets this it’s all blown out of hand. So rumors fly and dreams go by the way, as we all take the negative press to be real and choose to believe the worst about people and cause all types of undue stress.
Lies get told on Facebook, and old wounds get reopened just to peak and have a look. Fires are ignited and tempers flare, over ridiculous new slang, like jump off, implying she’s “just a thang.”
But why would anyone jump off into the untested and untrue? Why risk contracting AIDS and the other diseases the promiscuous do?
The Kandi that we adore lives above the fray. The Kandi Buruss that we know is as sweet and as smart as her real friends say. She is a dutiful mother placing her daughter above all others, to keep safe and protected from any harm that may come her way. She dreams of a charmed future for her daughter to have, free of proverbial right hooks and left jabs. Those vicious rumors we secretly hope have some truth and some bearing, to cast nasty aspersions on her life and her caring.
It’s really just entertainment and most don’t understand that when Kandi’s bantering about this and that man, she’s only doing it because it’s expected and she can. But we should be more careful about the judgement we pass, remember if not hers it could be your own a–.
There are those of us who choose not to be professionals or work hard each day, but why throw stones that decide to go that way? But we will fool ourselves and profess to be budding celebrities, we’re just waiting for the right break to collect the big fees. But I admire Kandi for going after “it” and having it her way.
The sexual revolution of the ‘70s is alive and well and resides in women who have fascinating stories to tell. But don’t get lost in the hype and lose sight of the power that women like Kandi yield, she’s at the top of her game and leading the field.
Learn to be kind to women each day, and be mindful that all of this talk about sex can get in the way. Respect women, they can say no you see, and don’t let your urges impact your family. Work to develop yourself professionally, and above all remember how you treat others, says a lot about you personally.
Kandi is more intelligent than you imagined, and when you think of her passion for performing and all she’s endured. Then think of the rumors and accusations leveled against you, and you’ll stand assured, that when you recall the pain and the anguish and the shame it caused, you’ll be cured.
Now all of you who read this page, take a moment to comment online and let me know today what Kandi means to you and what kind of things would you say. What questions would you ask her, and what more do you want to know, whether it’s her behind the scene or life on the show.
But respect that she is an entertainer and have fun with this task, but don’t get caught up in the politricks of the show and the cast.
Peace. –Munson Steed
