Instead of spending an entire column on each one of the following thoughts, I figured it’d be best to compile them into a single posting. So enjoy this edition of Rapid-Fire Love, and if any of you have a fear of “stray bullets” flying your way, then may I suggest you throw on a bulletproof vest before you start reading.
Bullet 1
I’m always on the road, and no matter the city, I always hear the men and the women complaining about each other. It never fails. Whether I’m in Atlanta, D.C., Chicago, L.A., New York, or even Oklahoma City, I’m always greeted with a familiar refrain: “The men in this city are dumb … there aren’t any good women here.”
This literally happens in every city.
So I have to ask: is the dating landscape really that bad in every American city, or have we somehow brainwashed ourselves into believing that no good men or women exist? I’m leaning towards the latter here.
I’ve always believed that your mindset goes a long way in dictating your reality. So if you keep telling yourself that there aren’t any good options in your city, then there won’t be. It’s as simple as that.
Bullet 2
I was recently asked by someone that I was dating if I wanted her to call me Daddy. I immediately replied no, as I’ve never been interested in dating someone who also wants to double as my kid. Now don’t get me wrong; when we’re together, I’ll do all that I can to ensure your happiness. But even that comes with stipulations, with the main one being your ability to take care of yourself if needed. To me, there’s nothing more unattractive than a woman that expects you to take care of her because she’s too lazy to do it herself.
Bullet 3
I’ve always wondered why guys have such a hard time picking up on the fact that a woman isn’t interested in them. I mean, women struggle with this too, but I almost feel like some men literally believe that it’s impossible for a woman not to be attracted to them.
This misguided belief can be so ingrained in their heads that they often overlook one of the biggest “I’m not feeling you” signs that women throw out there. It happens all the time in text messages and e-mails, and goes a little something like this:
Him: “Hey, I was just thinking about you and wanted to check up on you.”
Her: “Hey friend! I’m good. How are you?”
Did you catch that? When a woman isn’t interested in a guy romantically, she’ll be quick to throw out phrases like “friend, buddy, homie” just to subtly let him know that he doesn’t stand a chance. For whatever reason, guys always seem to overlook that one very obvious clue.
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So those are my thoughts for the day. If you have your own rapid-fire thoughts, now would be the appropriate time to share them. –dewayne rogers
**DeWayne Rogers is the author of The Fly Guy Chronicles, your in-depth guide to love, relationships and everything hazy in between.
