Dear Fly Guy,
I need some relationship advice. Most women give men a hard time
when it comes to committing to them, but I’m the exact opposite. When I
commit to a woman, she has my heart forever. My problem is that my
loyalty may be causing me to give my woman more leeway than she probably
deserves. We’ve been together for about six months now, and I feel like
I’m the only one in the relationship that tries to compromise and make
things work between us. It always feels like it’s her way or the
highway, which isn’t cool. I guess my question is how do you know when
you’re giving up too much to stay in a relationship? Is there a point
when you should just try to cut ties? Let me know your thoughts.
Fed Up Brotha
What’s Up Fed Up Brotha,
After reading your question, I can tell that your frustration has
reached its boiling point. Honestly speaking, there doesn’t seem to be
much compromise in your relationship. In fact, I haven’t witnessed a
lack of compromise this blatant since the last time I read the fine
print on a Bad Boy recording contract.
To me, compromise happens when both sides are willing to give a
little. Your situation feels the exact opposite. It feels like you’re
doing all of the giving, and she’s doing all of the receiving. The more
you continue down this path, the more you’ll find yourself being
taken advantage of. That, in turn, will lead to your continued
unhappiness. In my opinion, it’s time for you to draw a line in the
sand. Either she’s going to start learning the true art of compromise,
or you’re going to have to find another woman to give your heart to.
It’s as simple as that. I hope this helps.
The Fly Guy
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