This feeling is indescribable. No, I take that back, it’s borderline magical. That’s how good it feels to be around this person. You can’t stop thinking about them. They consume every part of your being. There’s just one problem though. The other person doesn’t see it. In fact, it’s even worse than that.
They view you as “just a friend.”
That’s right. You’ve officially become trapped in the friend zone … a place more unpleasant than a Halle Berry acting workshop. Now, there was a point in time when escaping the friend zone was considered virtually impossible—that is until today. It’s time to set the captives free with my “Fly Guide to Escaping the Friend Zone.”
1. Stop Acting Like a Friend
An effective way to begin your great escape is to stop acting like a friend. Now that doesn’t give you permission to blatantly ignore the things that made you friends in the first place. But it does give you the right to distance yourself from the normal “buddy activities.”
2. Rock the Boat
Still wondering how you ever found your way into the friend zone in the first place? Well for starters, you may have been too predictable. Here’s the test. If they were sad, did you instantly give them a shoulder to cry on? Or how about this one: If they needed you, did you show up knocking on their door in 3.4 seconds? If so, then you’re actually suffering from an acute case of “predictablilititis” (I made that word up.) Yes, it’s time for you to shake things up a bit and stop being so accessible.
3. Pursue Other People
You need to start pursuing other people … today. By doing so, you actually gain ground in the long run by triggering their jealousy switch. Think about it. Have you ever had someone constantly running behind you, only to watch them make a sudden about face to pursue someone else? When it happened, did you secretly think, “Am I missing out on something good?”
Jealousy is a natural emotion, and as soon as you’re able to use that to your advantage, the sooner you’ll have them craving more of you.
4. Get Closer
The next step in escaping the friend zone is to break down the physical barriers between the two of you. Simply put, you have to develop a pattern of touching them. So any chance that presents itself, initiate some type of physical contact. This can include kisses on the cheek, hugs, and playful wrestling. The more you do this; the more comfortable they’ll be with your touch.
5. Pique Their Interest
Now that you’ve broken the physical barrier, it’s time to add some intrigue into the equation. The first step is to start sending mixed signals about your actual feelings for them. (If you’re unclear on how to do this, pay attention to Lindsay Lohan’s relationship with designer drugs … one day she loves them; the next day she’s over them.)
Mixing this type of mysterious behavior with your newfound physicality only raises more questions in their mind. For starters, they’re trying to figure out if you’re actually interested in them. This uncertainty forces them to think about you within the context of a relationship. Mission accomplished … well almost.
6. Close the Deal
You’ve now come to the moment of truth. If you’ve followed my plan precisely, you should now be ready to close the deal. Once the mood is right, grab them by the shoulders, and let them know exactly how you feel … preferably in 3-5 sentences (There’s nothing worse than killing the mood by talking too much. Wrap it up!)
The Fly Guy Conclusion: You are now officially equipped to escape the friend zone. May your future days of freedom be filled with happiness and relational prosperity. –dewayne rogers, author of “The Fly Guy Chronicles”
