Maricopa County Family Court Judge Douglas Gerlach ruled last week that Thomas Beatie’s marriage could not be undone since Arizona does not recognize same-sex marriages. The couple married nine years ago in Hawaii. Beatie underwent a double-mastectomy, and began testosterone hormone therapy and psychological treatment to become a man, but he kept his female reproductive organs so that he could give birth to three children.
The judge’s ruling means Beatie doesn’t have to pay spousal maintenance but it’s very stressful as he wants to move forward with his life with his current girlfriend, Amber Nicolas.
“She doesn’t want to be dating a married man,” said Beatie’s attorney, David Cantor. “It’s hard for him. He feels he is being targeted saying, ‘Look, if you had kept it to yourself and didn’t use your reproductive organs, we wouldn’t be here.’ ”