After months of asserting yourself at the gym, surveying what you ate and joining numerous fitness challenges, it’s time to show off the results from the hard work. But who are the results for? Were you expecting to get into that bikini you bought that is a size 4 or hoping to have a decent six pack for the beach? Or were you envisioning meeting your soulmate this summer? Were you hoping to meet that one person who completes you? Everyone wants to be in a relationship, but too many times we use erroneous assets to attract people. In the end, we miss out on some great opportunities and neglect what is at our disposal.
As adults, we already get caught up in the rat race and our daily routines, but summertime is a brief season for us to enjoy the fruits of our labor. All year we have to deal with jobs, long commutes and the many other intricacies of our lives. However with summer, not only do we get great weather, but also an opportunity to partake in many cultural events. There are a ton of festivals and concerts taking place in every city. During this time, the local lounges or bars are offering drink specials for guests to enjoy refreshing cocktails on the patio or deck. Summer is the time for you and your friends to get those passports renewed and plan an excursion to some far away destination. Or maybe just to light up the grill, invite some friends over and create your own experience at home. The point is, don’t get bogged down with worrying about finding someone because there is so much to keep you occupied.
A relationship with the right person is a beautiful experience and you often find out things about yourself you didn’t know existed within you. But a relationship is also hard work. Yes, it is work if you want to have a healthy and successful one. It takes time and effort on top of everything else you have going on in your life. Until then, enjoy your summer and all it has to offer. Keep in mind that you are preparing yourself for that connection you want. By attending all of those concerts, festivals and traveling, you are further discovering your interests. Once you attain the relationship you’ve been longing for, you already know what your true interests are and the type of personality that will fit that mold. The experiences you gather while you are single prepare you for your relationship activities. As children we always looked forward to summer, and just because we are adults does not mean we cannot incorporate some of that very youthfulness and enjoy being single in the summer.
Trenell Harris is an Altanta-based relationship expert and author of the new release “The Silent Voice: Life Lessons Though Poetry.” His written works offer a fresh spin on life, love and relationships through a unique poetic voice. As a frequent editorial contributor and relationship panelist, he inspires individuals of all facets to appreciate their journey whether single, married, engaged or divorced. The-Silent-Voice.com / @TrenellHarris
