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Women using the bisexual card to get ‘likes’ contaminates dating pool

Photo credit: Daniel Korzeniewski /

Photo credit: Daniel Korzeniewski /

Conversations like the one we were all exposed to via the Real Housewives of Atlanta with Kandi and Porsha talking about their bisexual rendezvous, have become common in today’s dating pool. If you flip through Instagram or any other social media site, you’re guaranteed to see pictures of women in suggestive poses with their girlfriends or “girlfriends”.  Women’s sexuality is very ambiguous and there are definitely fewer boundaries than there are when it comes to men.

Terrica 26, says that the recent trend of bisexual or bi-curious women has made dating as a lesbian woman in Atlanta confusing, to say the least. “A lot of women are looking to experiment because it’s the “in” thing to do,” Terrica says. “I don’t believe some of them really love women like I do, they just want to appear sexy to their followers online or men they are dating.” Terrica considers herself a stud and has never had a male experience. “I’m only interested in lesbians that truly love women. I’m not open to threesomes with men or anything like that.”

Terrica is not alone in her feelings about women who pretend to be bisexual for attention or even for money. “A lot of girls are gay for pay if they are in the strip club and that’s what their male clientele want to see. There are also women who have been to jail that have been gay for the stay,” says Jazz, 27.  “These girls will have a bisexual sexual experience but they don’t desire the emotional connection with women that a lesbian woman desires, it can be confusing.”

Women looking to attract attention is one factor but another factor is women looking to satisfy the desires of their boyfriend or husband. Two girls kissing or the idea of getting a girl that likes girls is a common theme in today’s hip-hop music. Sexual icons like Blac Chyna and Amber Rose make a point to suggest being bisexual in their pictures and even comments on social media. On “Love & Hip Hop’s” season finale, Peter Gunz suggested he and wife Amina had a threesome with another woman.

“My boyfriend wanted a threesome for his birthday so I agreed with the understanding that I had to pick the girl,” Shanda says. Shanda doesn’t consider herself gay or even bisexual, just suggests that she is open to having fun with her man.

Terrica disagrees. “Anytime you are engaged in sexual behavior with the same sex, that is considered gay,” she contends. One thing is for sure, today’s dating scene is a lot more complicated than your grandmother or even your mother’s dating pool

Who do you agree with? Shanda or Terrica? I’d love to hear your comments.


  1. The BiCast on March 2, 2017 at 1:28 pm

    It’s articles like this that make our bisexual lives so miserable. It reinforces so many false stereotypes. We already have suicide and rapes statistics on top of mental health disparities that are shocking. We are tired of the media sensationalizing and click bating our orientation for profit. Not one mention in this article about the validity of our orientation and it’s unique issues. Or the huge amount of biphobia we face. And mostly from the gay and lesbian community. This type of irresponsible writing effects our youth in the most negative way. They already face bullying, non acceptance and suicidal ideation. This adds fuel to the fire. We demand reasonable representation from the media.

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  3. britishrose on March 3, 2017 at 11:51 pm

    The butches is mad cause they can’t manipulate and the fear of them finding out a chick is bi sexual is detrimental and traumatizing. They have to realize. Gay is only a word. Like if I wear blue contacts in my eyes that dont mean I think I’m white !!! Atlanta gay butches lezzies are the ones suffering.. And complaining. You never gonna dictate a persons freaky fetish… Men been downlowing ..look at undervovers like will smith and tyrese? They like women but creep with men! Same fate.. Men see men and women but to females thats an outrage .. So lesbians are saying. Down low cant apply to women?? No way!! Women are DL to so what .. I’m not gonna commit to being bi sexual to appease a bunch of controlling masculine bossy angry dikes. WHO HATE MEN!!!
    Butch females are the kind of dikes who. Wanna be a man but hate men and bi sexual females…
    A lot of them sleep with bi sexuals. So enjoy cause men ain’t never gonna worry bout two women bump in and grinning !!! So keep your DILL DOE clean ladies. Cause no one can choose who u play wit… If men can dip and dive with. No issues you can too. Lesbians really fear HIV. Which has spread in the gay communities with bi sexual. Males sexing bi females …all lesbians real concerns center around HIV. Spread. Which up to 20 yrears ago is spreading. Due to men in prison sexing men with the disease. They dont separate the HIV men from population. So a lot of them coming home infected and sleeping with straight females. Another white man plot to destroy black life .. And black folks … If they can grow the lesbian population no one will want to marry heterosexual either way blacks are destroyed in this game

  4. compass96 on March 6, 2017 at 4:12 pm

    Confused. Says girls are playing the bisexual card for likes and are fake and then later says that once you have are engaged in sexual relationships with other women you are gay. So which is it.

  5. on July 4, 2017 at 3:40 am

    Terrica. Yes, I often met some bisexual girls who is not real bi, just for fun or money. They join some bisexual dating site, find bi girl or boy, some times just want to experience bi desire or fun.