“How to Eat a Peach” is an oral pleasures workshop designed to teach a man how to give his partner what she wants in the bedroom, says Yanni Brown, a certified relationship educator who also teaches the popular workshop.
First things first. You must know your woman, Brown advises. “There are some women who would prefer to have it as an appetizer and not the meal,” she states, “and then there are some who can only have an orgasm that way.”
Yanni’s Tips on How to Eat a Peach
Stop poking and prodding — no dry, calloused fingers allowed. A soft nibble is OK if it’s something that she wants. The nails should be trimmed or cut low, and you should take your time.
Soft caresses are mandatory. If she is clitorally stimulated, you want to place your finger there and allow her to gyrate accordingly. If your tongue is there, then you want to do slow swirls as if you’re licking an ice cream cone. Her body language will tell you if you’re doing it correctly, as will the moisture of your body because her body is reacting to what feels good.
Intensify the experience by incorporating the Kama Sutra Oil of Love. It’s a warming sensation that you can apply above the clitoris. The oil gives her a nice, warming, tingling sensation on her clitoral area. Picture yourself licking the ice cream very slowly. Tongue movements should be slow and circula, never poking. If she’s clitorally stimulated, then please her with a slow, swirling caress of the clitoris with your tongue. The only time your tongue should be lapping fast is when she’s about to orgasm. Again, her body will tell you when that’s happening.
What Women Should Know
Don’t be a porn star. No cherries and things down there. You don’t want to surprise your partner with objects popping out. Sometimes, it doesn’t take all of that. Sometimes, it does. You need to know your partner well enough to know what he wants.
If it’s not being done correctly, you should gently whisper in his ear what you like and how you want it. Make it educational and make it fun, but not critical.
Never say, “You’re not doing this right, and you’re not doing that right, and I need you to do this” because you’ll never get it done that way. Drop your voice and pretend as if you’re engaging in phone sex when giving him instructions. Once he’s there, tell him, “Yeah, that feels good. I like it like that.”
You should definitely be groomed for hygiene purposes. Trim it low, and have it nice and neat. If you can go bare, do it. It’s absolutely wonderful. (Also, for men, have your area nice, neat and trimmed or shaven as well. Visually speaking, going bare adds a few extra inches to your package. Ladies should exercise those Kegel muscles so that everything is nice and tight.)
Take your time. You’re exploring one another’s body to find fulfillment. Do a scavenger hunt. Put different things that taste good behind the erogenous zones. Behind your ear, on your neck, chest and groin areas … places that are sensitive and exciting. Lay fruits on the belly area and then nibble them off.
There are so many ways to add spice and spontaneity to your relationship. Try these tips, be creative, and have fun! –zondra hughes
