It’s seemed like the men in hip-hop just couldn’t get enough of one hot and sexy Puerto Rican wardrobe stylist. From Swizz Beatz to Jadakiss, Winter Ramos got her groove on, needs met and pockets lined with cash to sustain a lifestyle many women dream of. She has her own condo in New York travels to her favorite hot spots, Miami and Puerto Rico, to whirlwind romances with some of the biggest stars in the industry. Winter was doing the damn thang and she’s spilling the beans in her just-released memoir: Game Over. She gives us all the “T” on who’s really working with something in the bedroom, a la rapper The Game, if Jay-Z was a hit or a miss and Damon Dash’s diss.
Now a resident of Miami, working for Flavor Unit films, this born-and-bred New Yorker is nearly five months pregnant. She’s finally living her true destiny. A fresh face on season 3 of VH1’s “Love and Hip Hop,” Ramos’ cautionary tale for young women is just the beginning of brand Winter Ramos. Boy is it a juicy start!
Read what she has to say. –yvette caslin
You opened the book speaking of pregnancy. Are you expecting or did you have the baby?
I’m 4 ½ months pregnant. (At the time of this interview)
Is it too early to talk about what you are having? Do you know what you are having? Are you not sharing?
I’m having a girl.
Are you in a committed relationship now?
Yes
How will you explain this book to your daughter?
I think it’s cool that my pregnancy is going to be documented. When you watch the reunion and some of my interviews, I’m pregnant. I have always been a very public person and I’ve never been one to do things and keep it private or been ashamed or in secret. I think that if she reads the book, if she decides to, she’ll be a teenager [by then] and old enough to understand. I can explain to her the same way I want to let all the young ladies that are reading it know. I want them to know it’s not bragging; it’s a story and a tale that I don’t want you to go down the same path. This is one thing where if you feel like you are in a situation, you can come to me because you know that I have been there.
When I received the book, I immediately thought about Karrine Steffans, author of New York Times bestseller, Confessions of a Video Vixen. But, you shared your story a little differently than Karrine and I think your stories are different all together. How do you feel about writing this book and then going back and seeing the final edits? Do you feel like you will be the same after this? For example, you dated Slim Williams, do you think you will have the same relationship after this or how do you think this will play out for you?
“If I saw him at an event, you know he would probably feel some kind of way because of the way the story was told. It wasn’t going to make me feel any different. I wanted to tell the story. It’s not all glamorous. It’s not all what you watch on music videos, what you see on TV, or what you hear on the song. It’s heartache, drama and stress. There are things that you wouldn’t normally do as an adult because you are young and immature and you feel like you know everything at that age. Now at 34-years-old, I hear these young ladies talking now and you know for me I’m immediately like ‘be careful and keep your guard up; I never had that. I was never told to keep my body sacred. I was like OK, let’s go with the flow. It’s fun and exciting. I never knew what could happen.With Rafer Alston I went through all these things. I didn’t want to hear the, ‘I told you so’ or people laughing at me thinking that I couldn’t maintain a relationship. Or even that it was entirely my fault! Then you get into a position where you are stuck in a rut because you don’t want to be embarrassed. Do you say that the woman is weak because she allows these men to do these things for her? Whether they have children or not and if or whatever reason she stays with this man. Is he weak or is she strong for staying? I go back and forth.”
Read an excerpt of Winter Ramos’ Game Over.
