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D.L. Hughley, Steve Harvey and selling misogyny as ‘wisdom’

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In recent weeks, fans of ABCs hit show “Scandal” have been rocked by the news that one of the show’s principal stars, actor Columbus Short, has been accused of domestic abuse by his estranged wife, Tanee McCall Short. Mrs. Short says that the star physically assaulted her in front of their child, put a knife to her throat and threatened to kill her and himself. It was announced a few days ago that Short has been fired from “Scandal” due to the allegations.

On his radio show, comedian, erstwhile political commentator D.L. Hughley weighed in on the topic and proceeded to blast Tanee McCall Short for her role in this unfortunate situation. Referring to Mrs. Short as a “thirsty b—-” and ” thirsty h–,” Hughley stated that, “I think that broad shouldn’t be telling all his business if she gone take him to court.”

Because, obviously, that’s what’s most important here.

Hughley’s female co-host Jasmine Sanders attempted to counter Hughley’s blatantly sexist commentary, but he chided her and opted instead to speak with his male co-host Steve Wilson, because, as Hughley put it, Wilson “has nuts.”

“I don’t think you believe half the shit you saying right now, Jasmine,” Hughley said dismissively, as Wilson chuckled in agreement. “This b—- was thirsty,” Hughley added. “The b—- was thirsty. What, she gone go back to dancing? She gone f— her money up?”

“When you’re very young, you’re very volatile,” Hughley also said. “I’ve been in situations where the police were called. I don’t believe that every time someone says something in the heat of anger, they actually mean it. Everybody want a thug dude, a passionate dude, until you gotta live with your mother in an undisclosed location. You know what kind of dude you picked. Stop it.”

“I don’t think that’s always the case,” Sanders countered.

“Well, you’re dumb,” was Hughley’s response.

Hughley’s statements and attitude are deplorable and there should be consequences. Those who consider themselves to be against misogyny and woman-bashing should distance themselves from this clown, post-haste. But what’s truly sad is that is that the same sad scene plays out in the dialogue between black men about black women every day. Columbus Short could be an emotionally unstable abuser; but that takes a backseat to the fact that this evil black woman–who is attempting to “trap” him. His actions lead to assaults on her character. How typical.

Also last week, D.L. Hughley’s fellow “King of Comedy” Steve Harvey decided to weigh in on “Love & Hip-Hop” cast members Mimi Faust and Nikko Smith and their now-notorious sex tape. The explicit footage was released to the Web and became a sensation, and Harvey was so aghast that he had to discuss this tragedy.

“You can’t have a child and make decisions based on just you and every mother understands that …When you’re making these decisions out here, that you’re going to make a sex tape, stop thinking about right now, whatever little momentary five minutes of fame and little piece of little change it’s going to put in your pocket,” Steve said on his radio show. “Whatever money they put in your pocket is not going to be worth the hell that comes with it.

“You’re putting your most precious gift out on display,” Harvey added. “For a pearl, you gotta dive to the bottom of the ocean…ain’t no diamonds laying on top of the earth; they don’t grow like corn. This thing every man got to have: your body. Your precious jewel. You’re sitting on a gold mine. Please act like it, young ladies. Act like you’re sitting on a gold mine, because it is what every man is after. And we will pay dearly for it.”

Maybe I’m wrong, but I am pretty sure there were two people gettin’ it in on that sex tape. And it’s called Mimi & Nikko: Scandal In Atlanta, so why is Mimi being singled out for scorn and derision? “You’re a father” seems to rarely be the go-to response when a man in the public eye does something society finds questionable, and public display of sexuality seems to rarely result in male criticism of other men; or even female criticism of the man in question. Her “gift” is her sexuality, and a woman’s sexuality must be repressed and hidden under the guise of it being “precious,” while a man’s sexuality is celebrated and endorsed–it affirms his “manhood.” Same double-standard game we’ve been playing for centuries. Maybe it’s time to acknowledge that this game is rigged.

What people like Steve Harvey and D.L. Hughley continue to perpetuate is the idea — the patriarchal idea — that a woman behaving in a way that is deemed “non-virtuous” is worse than anything a man could be guilty of himself. So when Columbus Short attacks his wife, there is an immediate need to cast blame on the wife. When two grown people make a sex tape together, there is an immediate need to chastise the woman for her role in that tape.

Another headline-grabbing recent scandal involved a high-profile man and a woman. L.A. Clippers’ owner Donald Sterling is now staring at a lifetime ban from the NBA after a recorded conversation between he and his girlfriend, V. Stiviano, was leaked to the media. In the conversation, Sterling makes disturbingly racist comments about NBA legend and businessman Magic Johnson. In the wake of the controversy, there has been an unsettling amount of black men who seem to be angrier at Stiviano for “tricking” the racist Sterling than there is for Sterling’s racism.

Why is that? Why is the woman’s behavior and character always on trial–even when it’s the man who committed the offense? Why is it the woman’s fault that her husband is unstable? Every abused woman “saw it coming?” Isn’t that just another way of saying she “had it coming?”

Shortly after Chris Brown was arrested for assaulting Rihanna in 2009, comedian Mike Epps stood in front of an audience at one of his shows and shouted “We don’t know what she did to that boy!” The audience cheered — despite the fact that we all knew what he’d done to her.

Do we hate our women?

And maybe it’s high time we press “mute” on the misogynistic, patriarchal musings of these former Kings of Comedy and demand that our black men in the public sphere respect black women enough to not be condescending and insulting in their dealings with black women. If Don Imus had to face public scorn and condemnation, so should D.L. Hughley. Misogyny doesn’t need more platforms–and both of these funnymen are wallowing in it. One under the guise of offering “guidance” to grown women who don’t need and never asked for it; the other in an attempt to shift blame from a fellow black man’s troubling behavior. Both should be ashamed.

Don’t you miss Bernie Mac?



51 Comments

  1. guest on April 30, 2014 at 2:49 pm

    dl is a HATE MONGOR he HATES Black Women and he needs to be fired

  2. guest on April 30, 2014 at 2:51 pm

    Black women stop supporting men that hate you

  3. NirvanaSaidSo on May 1, 2014 at 10:05 am

    Whats sad to me is how many women have argued with me in defense of these men who obviously HATE us and believe that women should behave in a certain way in order to deserve respect.

    • Likewaterforchoc on May 1, 2014 at 3:46 pm

      That is backward thinking that still places the blame on women by stating that if we are disrespected, we MUST have done SOMETHING to deserve it. We’re back where we started.

      • george michael on May 4, 2014 at 12:30 pm

        I agree. The writer was very observant to use the Rihanna and Chris situation as an example. I don’t know if I am naive, or was naive but I was stunned by the reaction from the black community at the time. On the internet at least. Despite most having seen the disturbing images of her battered and bruised face, black men, AND women were questioning what Rihanna had to have done to have caused Chris to act in that way. Not many were castigating the young man, who beat a woman so callously and so viciously.

        This is the other part of misogyny that I despise. Where women are blamed for the actions of grown men. It is however important to note, that this is actually prevalent in all parts of society, and not just the black community.

        • dubbs on June 24, 2014 at 4:08 pm

          we call that victim-blaming. shifting the focus from the perpetrator to the victim to justify his crimes and diffuse some or all of the blame to her.

    • crazygemini12 on May 2, 2014 at 1:58 am

      I see that so often and it’s so sad 🙁

    • stacey on May 4, 2014 at 9:05 am

      The sad thing is women are raised to accept this behavior and as a result believe it to be true..smh

  4. Likewaterforchoc on May 1, 2014 at 3:48 pm

    I don’t understand how DL is using youth and how “young” Columbus is to justify his behavior. People see to forget that Columbus is on his SECOND marriage and he’s 31. So he’s young (definitely for FAILED marriage #2), but he’s not THAT young.

    • crazygemini12 on May 2, 2014 at 2:01 am

      Even if he was young, it’d be a deplorable excuse.

  5. Guest on May 2, 2014 at 8:15 am

    To me this sounds like scapegoating and says “men are not getting blamed enough. All the blame needs to goto them. Even if its blatantly obvious we are dead wrong in what we do, dont make us act like adults, woman up and take responsibility for our actions even though we believe men should do the same.” Typical feminist man shaming propoganda *rolls eyes* What happened with columbus short and his wife, I wasnt there. Who knows what happened. I dont see why women are getting butthurt over steve harveys comments on mimi faust and her blatant attention seeking stunt. obviously theres levels to what happened with chris brown and riri if they separated, Chris Brown damn near got blackballed, and yet she STILL went back to him…….

    • george michael on May 4, 2014 at 12:32 pm

      Men are not getting blamed enough?? Men are not getting blamed AT ALL. And that is the issue here.

  6. Louis Antoine on May 2, 2014 at 8:16 am

    To me this sounds like scapegoating and says “men are not getting blamed enough. All the blame needs to goto them. Even if its blatantly obvious we are dead wrong in what we do, dont make us act like adults, woman up and take responsibility for our actions even though we believe men should do the same.” Typical feminist man shaming propoganda *rolls eyes*

    • parkwood1920 on May 3, 2014 at 2:30 pm

      It’s “man-shaming” to point out D.L. Hughley’s bigoted comments about battered women? Did he not go on the air and say those things? Was anyone forcing him to dehumanize Tanee McCall-Short? Seriously, when are men going to take responsibility for their own actions?

      • Louis Antoine on May 3, 2014 at 2:34 pm

        when r women gonna take responsibility for theirs?

        • parkwood1920 on May 3, 2014 at 5:20 pm

          When women systematically are raping, battering, victim-blaming, and verbally dehumanizing men by the thousands, you let me know, alright?

          • george michael on May 4, 2014 at 12:36 pm

            By the millions, hun.



        • george michael on May 4, 2014 at 12:41 pm

          It’s a shame you have weighed in on a discussion, when you are too simple to grasp the argument.

    • george michael on May 4, 2014 at 12:35 pm

      Men take no issue shaming women. They do it, like it is second nature. Case in point Steve talking about Mimi. So men should accept that they too should be called out. Go cry some more if you can’t accept critique.

  7. fame on May 2, 2014 at 9:29 am

    I heard Steve Harvey myself he was saying ppl will look at differently cause she’s a woman. No one has mentioned Nikko. Its a double standard in this world . we can’t change what ppl think. DL is wrong for down playing it but he’s telling the truth don’t marry a guy like that I’m sure he displayed those tendencies b4 marriage!!!!

  8. Jaded28 on May 2, 2014 at 6:50 pm

    —“Act like you’re sitting on a gold mine, because it is what every man is after. And we will pay dearly for it.”—
    These two need to get their stories straight. Either we should act like we’re sitting on a gold mine and make them pay for it, or we’re hungry b’s. I’m so confused. Which are we?

  9. Luz on May 3, 2014 at 12:20 pm

    Good article but Bernie Mac also slammed women in his comedy routines and made a lot of homophobic jokes too. So, no, I don’t miss THAT Bernie Mac.

  10. BridgetTweeter on May 3, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    Let’s be real it starts in the church. It encourages black women to be submissive and if they some how do not behave then they deserve to be treated in a manner that is brutal. Then we run into the world where OUR mother and sisters and Aunt all worshiped men who are UNWORTHY of that respect. NO being a employed black man does NOT mean you deserve to put on a pedestal and worshiped. WHICH what we do. The arrogance of the spoiled black man is only due to the fact WE to this day still support and encourage this. IF we criticize them then we are accused of hating the black race and wanting to see it end. HOW the fuck did STEVE Harvey get a talk show???? AND why the hell do we watch it? WHAT is in the mind of Dr. Phil for supporting his dumb a?

    • Damond on May 4, 2014 at 8:00 am

      Exactly. It’s time we start discussing and pointing out the roots to a lot of the problems in the black community, “the church & religion” we tend cling so dearly to.

      • stacey on May 4, 2014 at 9:10 am

        Exactly

      • Mike C on February 13, 2015 at 3:07 am

        So let me get this straight Gods way and truth is wrong, yeah Right!

  11. Diamond Testicles on May 3, 2014 at 6:45 pm

    I still don’t understand why supposed “good black women” defend black women that are clearly gold digging sluts. D.L is irrelevant everyone has an opinion at least he’s making his known! If you’re a good women you should know how to find a good man. If a man is beating up his girlfriend or disrespecting her he’s a badboy but a lot of women like bad boys because in most cases they’re not good women at all. There’s no conspiracy her just a bunch of dumb women venting for being stupid. Good women know how to find a good man if you’re single or you can’t find a good man chances are YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! and it’s not because of how you look it’s mostly because of how you act. A good man will always treat a good woman with the utmost respect because good women ARE RARE! wake up angry black bitches it’s a two way street! dumbfucks!

    • Chile Cheese on May 4, 2014 at 11:41 am

      Really? *sideeye* You sound butt hurt.

      • george michael on May 4, 2014 at 12:39 pm

        Indeed. Typical. He sounds ignorant, bitter and stupid. None of what he said is even on topic.

        • Chile Cheese on May 4, 2014 at 12:58 pm

          It really sounded like the ramblings of someone “special” and I was going to back away slowly but then I saw “angry black bitches” and I realized this for what it was.

  12. WEKetchum on May 3, 2014 at 11:43 pm

    Some of these comments are terrible.

    DL Hughley’s comments offended me the worst. If he wants to give Columbus Short the benefit of the doubt and the “innocent until proven guilty” treatment before the facts come out in court, that’s one thing. But to automatically take the guy’s side, and to justify the possible abuse by saying “you know what kind of dude you picked” is harmful and systemic. He has no idea about their relationship – he doesn’t know if he showed abusive signs early or not, he doesn’t know how perceptive she would or wouldn’t be to them, etc. So automatically chastising her when he doesn’t know the specifics of the situation is terrible.

    • Sandra Greer Phillips on May 6, 2014 at 6:05 pm

      You are so right that D. L. Hughley’s comments were offbase. He later conceded that he did not know the details and upon finding out the details he made a retraction. He probably assumed as many men do that the woman “cried abuse” like women who have “cried rape” in the past for convenience.

  13. WEKetchum on May 3, 2014 at 11:48 pm

    As far as Steve Harvey’s comments go, he partly has a point, but he’s missing a lot. If you think Mimi releasing a sex tape can be harmful to her daughter, that’s a legitimate concern, IMO. But when he gets to the “You’re putting your most precious gift out on display” BS, that’s where it gets bad, because he’s trying to define the woman’s sexuality instead of letting her define it herself. That’s not cool. Gotta find a difference between addressing the social standards that are there and not being defined by them.

    • Gecks on May 5, 2014 at 6:02 pm

      When Harvey equates a woman’s sexuality to a pearl, I don’t think he’s completely off. As a Christian I find it a little perverse that he defines the value of that pearl as something every man should slobber over like a dog.

  14. Sandra Greer Phillips on May 4, 2014 at 8:55 pm

    I don’t think modesty is repression. Women don’t have to compete with men sexually. Foreplay is primarily for women so to pretend we compete sexually with men is nonsense: we need it more than they on a regular basis; therefore, don’t be offended at the concept of feminine modesty. When women have to be as aggressive as men sexually, I think we have lost something as a society. As quiet as it is kept, women still are the nurturers generally speaking. In addition, the mind is a sexual organ and part of the body.

    • Laurie Bertram Roberts on May 5, 2014 at 3:23 pm

      What are you even talking about? Who was talking about competing with men sexually? But quiet as it’s kept not all women need or want a ton of foreplay some like to just get to it and some men like an hour of foreplay. Stereotypes are bullshit. We don’t lose anything as a society if are aggressive sexually. It’s not like a woman can’t be both aggressive sexually and a nurturer. If this is true than you are saying men can not be nurturing by your logic. Your whole post can be summed up with I like tradition and challenges to that bothers me.

      • Gecks on May 5, 2014 at 5:58 pm

        “What are you even talking about? Who was talking about competing with men sexually?”
        She’s seeing beyond just this story and into the grander issues that this topic, in part, springs from.

        Why do you treat “tradition” like a bad word? “Tradition” is not always something artificial and manmade. Sometimes tradition is something natural that plays out over the ages. It is natural for women to be nurturers, for instance. This doesn’t exclude a man’s ability to nurture, rather, it speaks to how much more easily nurturing comes from the woman. This is not an artificial construct. It’s how woman is designed.

        • Maxine Shaw on May 6, 2014 at 5:46 pm

          Actually, traditions are 100% artificial and manmade. Just because you do stuff for centuries doesn’t make it right.

          • Sandra Greer Phillips on May 6, 2014 at 5:55 pm

            Actually that depends on your religious view.



          • Maxine Shaw on May 6, 2014 at 6:41 pm

            ALL religions are manmade. Therefore, all traditions are manmade. We are not going to sit here and have a discussion about your dear and fluffy lord.



          • Sandra Greer Phillips on May 6, 2014 at 6:47 pm

            You are entitled to your opinions on tradition and religion I have no intention of arguing with concerning what you believe. Apparently you feel that my comments are provocative. I simply am responding to your reply to my comment. Atheist now have the Church of Atheism.



          • Sandra Greer Phillips on May 6, 2014 at 6:46 pm

            Actually, I meant to say that some traditions I like and others I do not.



          • Gecks on May 7, 2014 at 10:59 am

            Disagree. Sometimes what is traditional is what we naturally gravitate towards. That doesn’t by itself make a tradition good, but it doesn’t make a tradition bad either.



          • Maxine Shaw on May 7, 2014 at 5:27 pm

            I didn’t say it was bad. I said that being old doesn’t make a tradition good. It just makes it old. I don’t see anybody here arguing for the traditions of slavery or child marriage.



      • Sandra Greer Phillips on May 6, 2014 at 6:01 pm

        I never said not all women need a ton of foreplay, but that generally women are the ones who do. You are describing the superwoman complex when it comes to roles of doing it all and men being mere sperm donors for women who don’t have a role for men in their lives beyond sex otherwise it is not necessary for her to do it all. Even if she does think she does it all she probably relies on other women and does not do it all.

        • Laurie Bertram Roberts on May 11, 2014 at 3:06 am

          Really? I was talking about the superwoman complex simply by saying it’s ok for women to be sexually aggressive if they wish and nurturers. I don’t believe that’s what I wrote at all but thank you for speaking for me.
          I didn’t say anything about discarding men or not having a role for them in the lives of women that’s a conclusion you jumped to. My partner has a very big role in my life and my family I count on him and he on me yet our roles would not be considered traditional. Challenging tradition doesn’t mean you have to disregard each other unless you aren’t interested in men.

  15. dubbs on June 24, 2014 at 4:05 pm

    so she’s a hungry b****, but she’s supposed to make men “pay dearly” for it? first off, DL frames all women as prostitutes, who only want sex as a transaction, to give men access to their bodies for something (material wealth) in exchange. according to DL, “good respectable women” should demand a “high price” for their bodies rather than just give it away like dumb sl*ts who don’t know their own value. this is misogyny, objectification, and the commodification of women’s bodies in the worst way. it dehumanizes women to be valued only for their bodies as a marketable commodity that should “sold” to the highest bidder. it dehumanizes women by taking away their personal desires for sensual pleasure, sexual gratification, human connection, affection, companionship, and mutual respect. There is no reciprocity in DL’s world – only a business transaction between women willing to sell their bodies to men who can afford them. what a sad, sick, lonely little man you are, DL.

  16. afteru on January 29, 2015 at 9:59 pm

    Glad to see this. I had never understood why African-American women always stood up for African-American men who never reciprocated. Always had me totally confused. Happy to see the women aren’t 100% fooled.

    • Mike C on February 13, 2015 at 3:24 am

      Now just paint all black men with one conspiratorial brush, cause none of us are noble, or worth anything to society right? Truth needs no crutch it will stand, and if hidden centuries beneath propaganda, it will always be rediscovered.