La La Anthony and Michelle Obama present different views on relationships

La La Anthony and Michelle Obama present different views on relationships
Michelle Obama talks with Gayle King (Photo credit: Steed Media)

La La Anthony and former FLOTUS Michelle Obama had relationship messages from their time at the 2019 Essence Festival in New Orleans that went viral.

While attending an after-party, Anthony stood up in the VIP section and had this to say: “To all my independent women who don’t need a n—- for nothing, make some noise. If you don’t need a n—- for s— make some noise. Cause I really don’t care. I really don’t.”


Anthony’s embittered words didn’t surprise fans much given that her tumultuous marriage to estranged husband and professional basketball player Carmelo Anthony has been tabloid gossip for several years. After video footage of her rant went viral, the public response was split. Many independent career women championed Anthony’s sentiment, while men on social media interpreted her message as divisive and condescending.

Obama’s message was the polar opposite. Although she was specifically addressing the same demographic of independent African American women as Anthony, instead of suggesting men were unnecessary, Obama instructed strong women to find a man they could respect and who would make a good teammate.


“My husband is my teammate, and if we are going to win this game together, he has to be strong and he has to be OK with me being strong,” the former first lady said.

These two women have very different approaches to relationships that obviously have yielded very different outcomes.

“La La’s currently dealing with a marriage crisis, so her speech seems to be a passive-aggressive way of trying to pay Carmello back for the embarrassment she’s suffered,” relationship expert Terry Deron said.  “Michelle’s experiences with her husband and the level of respect his behavior and decision-making [have] on her has allowed her to focus on the positives, which are her reality. She is able to reminisce on the obstacles they’ve had in the past and be the source of wisdom for women that are trying to get what she has. Her comments could very well have been different if Barack had a side baby and got caught with another woman on her birthday.”

Sadly, whether Anthony’s attitude would be different if she was in a healthy relationship is not the most important point of this video going viral. For the many young women, hearing Anthony’s words and approaching relationships from the standpoint of not needing a man could cause them to have negative results when dealing with men.

Obama’s words, on the other hand, allowed strong, independent women to feel empowered when looking for a partner and also reassured them that while there is nothing wrong with being a strong independent woman, the best complement for that is an equally strong partner.

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Dr. Christal D. Jordan Jennings is a journalist and professional entertainment publicist with several years of experience in celebrity marketing and branding. Jordan worked in the corporate PR sector before relocating to Atlanta, GA and founding Enchanted Branding and Public Relations in 2008. The company specializes in public relations strategy, media training/consultation, and crisis communication in service of notable celebrity talent such as TLC’s Chilli, Roy Jones Jr.,Kenan Thompson, and more. Further, Jordan serves as a journalist. She serves as editor-in-chief for Lenox & Parker, Sr. Editor with with Rolling Out and Sr. Features writer with Collider, where she specializes in stories that emphasize the importance of empowering women. Jordan earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in Organizational Communications and her Master of Arts in Mass Communications from the University of Oklahoma. Most recently, Jordan started a YouTube channel pulling from her own experiences with celebrity endorsement and strategic relationships. The channel, entitled From Christal with Love XO, boasts over 27k subscribers and works to celebrate love and relationships from a progressive lens. She is also the host of Fox 5 Atlanta’s bi-weekly segment on celebrity relationships. After twenty years of notable stellar contributions in journalism, public relations and literature, Christal received an honorary doctoral degree in Literary Studies from TIUA in June 2024.
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