9 signals that it’s time to end the date

If someone is bringing up their exes or past relationships, it could be a sign that they’re not over them
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First dates can be a whirlwind of emotions, a delicate dance of anticipation and uncertainty. As you navigate the unfamiliar terrain of a budding connection, it’s natural to seek clues, to decipher the subtle signs that hint at the other person’s interest in you. However, the path to understanding is often riddled with ambiguity, where smiles can be misconstrued as flirtation and polite nods mistaken for genuine engagement.

Amidst this sea of mixed signals, sure tell-tale signs might indicate a waning interest. If your date seems withdrawn, their attention drifting towards the exit or their phone screen, it could be a subtle indication that the connection isn’t quite there. One-word answers, a lack of follow-up questions, and a reluctance to engage in deeper conversation are potential indicators of lukewarm interest.


Of course, not every averted gaze or monosyllabic response signifies a lack of attraction. Sometimes, shyness or social anxiety can mask genuine interest. It’s essential to observe these signs in context, considering the overall tone of the interaction and the individual’s personality.

Ultimately, the best way to gauge interest is to trust your instincts. If you feel a sense of disconnection, a lack of reciprocated energy, likely, the connection isn’t as strong as you’d hoped. While disappointment is inevitable in dating, it’s important to remember that each interaction offers valuable lessons, helping you refine your understanding of compatibility and attraction.


Here are 9 of the most common missed signals of disinterest on a first date:

1. Constantly checking their phone or watch.

If someone is constantly checking their phone or watch during your date, it’s a clear sign that they’re not fully present in the conversation. They may be bored, distracted, or simply not interested in what you have to say.

2. Lack of eye contact.

Eye contact is essential for building rapport and connection. If someone avoids eye contact, it could be a sign that they’re not engaged in the conversation or uncomfortable with you.

3. One-word answers or short, dismissive responses.

If someone gives you one-word answers or short, dismissive responses to your questions, it’s a sign that they’re not interested in having a deeper conversation with you. They may be bored, uninterested, or incompatible with you.

4. Closed body language.

Crossed arms, a slumped posture, or fidgeting can all be signs of closed body language, which indicates that someone is not feeling comfortable or open to you.

5. Negative comments about themselves or others.

If someone constantly puts themselves down or makes negative comments about others, it could be a sign that they’re not in a good place emotionally and are not ready for a relationship.

6. No effort to continue the conversation.

If the conversation is constantly dying down and someone needs to make more effort to keep it going, it’s a sign that they’re not interested in getting to know you better.

7. Talking about exes or past relationships.

Unless you’re both on the same page about discussing past relationships, it’s generally best to avoid these topics on a first date. If someone is bringing up their exes or past relationships, it could be a sign that they’re not over them or that they’re not ready to move on.

8. Making excuses to leave early.

If someone makes excuses to leave early, such as saying they must work or meet friends, it’s a clear sign that they’re not enjoying the date and want to go.

9. Not offering to pay their share or making a token effort to produce.

If someone is not offering to pay their share of the bill or is making a token effort to deliver, it could be a sign that they’re not interested in pursuing a relationship with you.

Of course, not all of these signs are guaranteed indicators of disinterest. However, if you’re noticing several of these behaviors, paying attention is a good idea. The person may have an off day or not feel a strong connection with you. But if these behaviors are persistent, it’s best to move on.

Remember, you deserve to be with someone genuinely interested in you and who makes you feel good about yourself. Refrain from wasting your time on someone who isn’t reciprocating your interest.

This story was created using AI technology.

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