Are you tired of spending Saturday nights alone? Is the ceaseless complaining that there just aren’t enough good men left in the world falling on deaf ears? Is your spirit broken and you’ve concluded that there are not enough good men out there, so you’re willing to bargain with your dignity and settle for a “friend with benefits?”
What you don’t realize is this decision prohibits you from finding the person whom you were destined to be with. You could be letting your vagina get in the way of finding true love. It is often difficult for many men and women to wait to have sex until they are in a committed relationship. My www.YouTube.com/lovein30days followers know my position: no sex until marriage. However, I am a realist and know that not everyone can wait until saying “I do” before giving in to sex. I recommend that if you can’t wait until marriage, wait until you have found someone who is committed to you and a firm foundation of friendship has been established.
A good rule of thumb is to set a minimum time limit. I suggest waiting at least three months. Here’s why. When a woman has an orgasm or her nipples are stimulated, she releases a hormone called oxytocin, aka the “hormone of love.” It is a common reaction for mothers after labor, during breastfeeding and according to recent studies, during an orgasm. It is no secret that it’s a woman’s nature to nurture. When a mother bonds with her baby, there is a natural desire to take care of her child. Similarly, when she has sex, she is open to becoming chemically addicted to a man.
You may get so horny that you are willing to jump in the bed with the first man who says “Hello” to you. Don’t! He may not deserve you and will leave you with regrets. In my books, I encourage women who experience extreme horniness to turn to their “toys” before turning to a “friend with benefits.” If you keep your legs closed and your “toy” box open, you will be a happier diva who will find the love she deserves.
–shay williams-garrett
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Shay Williams-Garrett aka Shay Your Date Diva is a speaker and the author of “DIVA Don’t Get Played!” and “Mommy DIVA Don’t Get Played!” both dating guides for catching the man of your dreams in 30 days!