Black Sexuality: Butch, A Woman With a Fade and Gold Teeth

altCall me old-fashioned, but I think women have changed. I don’t know if it’s the music or the influences of media or our preoccupation with money and materialism, but something has changed. Growing up, I don’t ever recall seeing women dressed like young men as I do now. In many cases I can’t tell if they are actually men or women. From boxers to hairstyles, and even wearing contraptions on their breasts to flatten their chests, something has gone awry.  

I was curious about this phenomenon because a lot of black women say that they don’t like thugs — regardless of sexual orientation — but there appears to be a large group of lesbians dressing like men and carrying themselves like thugs. 


“Those women feel very uncomfortable in ladies clothes. They feel masculine, so they reflect that in their dress,” a former lesbian said of the culture. “That’s why it’s perverse, because it makes no sense that today you’re a lesbian, but want a manly looking woman. It’s all role-play based on the low self-esteem of the stud and the co-dependent narcissistic diva.”

Now I have nothing against homosexuals, heterosexuals or transsexuals, but one would have to be blind not to notice the overt display of self-rejecting behaviors. I mean it’s cool if you’re a woman and you want to be gay, but why dress like a man to do so?  Doesn’t that defeat the purpose?


Why not just go for the real thing? Are women really so dazed and confused regarding their sexuality that they will pretend to be a man when they are not? I believe a lot of women who claim to be gay would give it up if they could locate the right man, not all but some would.

Gender identity issues, as I said, have become more prevalent over the past few decades. Not only for women, but men as well. This is not an attack on homosexuals, for I am also critical of heterosexuals, in particular men who shun their responsibilities as parents. I am just curious, so please help me understand, especially here in Atlanta. Maybe Bob Marley was correct when he sang  “Can’t tell the woman from the man, ’cause they dressed in the same pollution … their minds is confused with confusion.”
torrance stephens, ph.d.

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