Hi, Fly Guy:
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. About four months ago, I moved to a different state to be with him, and we moved in together. There’s been talk of marriage, and I know he has been ring shopping.
My boyfriend though is addicted to smoking weed. That’s literally all he does. Whenever he’s not working, he’s just laying around the house getting high. What makes matters worse is that he’s in sales and makes his own schedule. That means that he has even more time to just sit around and smoke. When I confront him about it, he says that he is under a lot of pressure at work and that this is his way of relieving stress when he gets home. But honestly, I feel this is pretty excessive! I don’t mind him smoking every now and then, but this habit is causing tension in the relationship. I have brought it up several times. We constantly argue over it and have even been on the verge of breaking up as a result of it. After I nag and complain, he stops for a few days, but then he goes back to the same old habits.
I am a full-time student and work full time, and, after a hard day, all I want is to cuddle with my man … not a weed head. Is this too much to ask for? I am honestly considering packing my bags and moving back home, as this is not a trait that I find desirable in the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. What do I do?
Helen
What’s up, Helen:
I understand your frustration, and I agree that this is an issue that must be addressed. In relationships, there are many areas where compromise is required. However, I don’t think that drug use is one of those areas. If this is a behavior that you don’t find desirable in a potential husband, then the choice should be clear. Besides, wouldn’t you rather be involved with someone who uses his free time in a more productive manner? Seems like you would.
Ultimately, the decision lies with you, but, if happiness is your true desire, then it’s time to get your head out of the clouds (of smoke). I hope this helps, and I wish you luck.
The Fly Guy
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