Jada Pinkett Smith, the indomitable supermom/wife, actress, producer, and rock star is covering the August issue of Redbook magazine. In her interview she explains how she and her superstar husband of 11 years, Will Smith, keep their relationship red hot. She also discusses how she remains motivated and disciplined in life.
What’s the difference between discipline and motivation?
I’m not the type of person that will work out at the same time everyday. I might get up in the morning and do a work out. The next day I might do it in the afternoon. The next day I might do it in the evening. Discipline and motivated are two different things. I’m very motivated, I’m going to get it done, believe me. I just don’t know when.Will [Smith] is disciplined. Will will get up 5 a.m. on the trend mill, 5 miles everyday clock work and I can’t do it like that. I’m not a ‘do it the same way everyday’ kind of girl. I never have been. I can’t stand it. I got to switch it up. I don’t think I’m disciplined in a way that most people would describe being disciplined.
How do you keep [your connection with Will]?
Talk. Or the other day, because I’ve been working a lot, I said to Will, “Be ready at 2:30.” He said, “Where are we going?” I said, “Don’t worry about it.” So I put together a picnic basket and drove us to this hiking trail that I’d taken him to when we first met. No Secret Service, nothing. I got the idea because that morning he’d been reading a book on architecture, and he told me that it said the only replenishment for the soul is nature. Now, I’ve always known that’s true for me, but for a dude to say “nature,” I’m like, “Wow!” I said to myself, I’m going to take him on that hike. So we went up and had a really nice afternoon. We were there for about an hour, just sitting on a bench overlooking the canyons. I’m getting teary just thinking about it. We were both replenished and so happy and connected in that one hour. It doesn’t take a lot of time. Once again, it’s just being aware and present enough to know what that other person wants. What does he want today?After 11 years of marriage, any tips for keeping a relationship hot?
Nice outfits and high heels! And talking. And making time. You’ve got to make time. Our men want to feel important. We want to feel important. So it’s about establishing an environment in which that can happen. It can be hard because we get caught in the grind of life. Establish relationships with family members or friends and take turns with each other’s kids so you can make that time for yourselves. It doesn’t take a lot of money — wallets are tight right now — so just simple stuff. A night walk? Man, do I love those. Or pack a lunch and go to the park, like Will and I did. Even a drive — and then pull over on the side of the road! Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary! Be sneaky. Your girlfriend’s house at a party. The bathroom! A guest bedroom! Just switch it up. Anything like that can keep it going. Anything it takes to keep the flame alive.
Jada and Will are a prime example of how to make a marriage last. Ladies and gents, take notes!
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