For years, rappers like Andre 3000 and Kendrick Lamar have pondered the interesting situation of women leaving men for other women. But now one of the most powerful women in the world, Jada Pinkett Smith, is, apparently, having the same thoughts and recently asked her Facebook followers why women choose to enter relationships with other women as a last resort.
In her surprising Facebook post about same-sex love, Pinkett makes it clear that she believes love exists between all forms of sexuality —gay, straight, bi and in between — but she reveals that genuinely wonders why women, including three that she personally knows, sometimes fall in love with women after leaving a relationship with a man.
“In the last month, three women, in their 40s, coming out of long-term relationships with men have confided in me that they now feel that their last resort for companionship is that with a woman. These are women who have never engaged in or even desired to be in intimate relationships with other women. Now these women feel as though they have no other option. It seems as if there is a spike in same sex love all around. What is changing in which how men and women are relating to one another, that is creating same sex love as a LAST RESORT for heterosexual women?” Pinkett Smith wrote.
Ironically, for years, both Pinkett Smith and her husband, Will Smith, have been plagued with rumors that they’re both bisexual and have an open marriage to accommodate their same-sex attractions.
But, regardless of what’s true for Pinkett Smith, it only takes an honest observation of the world around us to see that sexuality is not a concrete thing. Even sociologists have said that sexuality is typically fluid at some point in life for most people, especially women.
So, perhaps these women are doing more than ditching men — who so often are labeled as invulnerable and unfit for monogamy — and looking for a last resort for companionship, but also tapping into a part of themselves, that being their same-sex attraction, that they’ve either never known or were never able to express before.
Alas, everyone’s experience and sexuality is different, so there’s no definitive way to answer Pinkett Smith’s question. But at least she realizes that love exists for everybody and any sexuality.
But you can check out some women below who have fallen in love with other women. –nicholas robinson
