Mistress, do you really think he is leaving his wife? Being a mistress was once considered “taboo,” until recent years, where now you often hear of it raising its ugly head. However, being a mistress should never be an ambition or goal for any woman. I am certain that when you were a young child that you probably dreamed of getting married to Prince Charming, having kids and a beautiful life — instead of being a mistress. Who really wants a relationship full of false hopes, disappointments, lies, heartache and broken promises? Ladies, if a married man lies to his wife, be certain that he will lie to you. Do not ever think that you are an exception to that rule.
So, if that still sounds foreign to you, let me school you on some things that you should know about the mistress.
You will always be his secret. His family and friends will never know about you and that can be very hurtful. Not to mention, that there will be limited places that the two of you can go, for the fear of being seen. It may even get to a point where you only see him at your place. And, If he has no plans of leaving his wife and does not publicize his relationship with you, please know that he does not want to lose his wife, which means you will always be his secret.
Telling the wife will only make things worse. So, you think that telling the wife about your affair is going to make things better? Not. He will not appreciate it and will probably start avoiding you, which is the opposite of your expectations. This move will also drive you crazy because now that you have taken the liberty to disclose your affair, he may feel obligated to work things out with his wife — which leaves you out in the cold.
Do not plan on spending any holiday time with him. As you should know, holidays are always spent with family. So, do not even think about seeing him on Christmas, New Years, Thanksgiving, his or his wife’s birthday, or on their anniversary … you get the picture. With that being said, get used to spending some quiet, lonely time with yourself.
Just because he is sexing you, does not mean that he is in love with you. Ladies, men see sex as a physical activity, not an emotional connection, as we do. And, because of their emotional disconnect, it is very easy for them to cheat. So, he can sleep with you (mistress) and still be in love with his wife.
He always has a reason why he is not leaving his wife. “I’m waiting for the kids to graduate from school,” “I don’t want to pay child support,” etc. Believe me; he will have an excuse or two, as to why he cannot leave his wife. The kids have graduated high school and now he has another excuse — ”he has to pay for college” — and before you know it, it’s seven years later and you are still the mistress.
He is the shot caller. Do not even think about making reservations or a surprise getaway, as it will be a waste of time and money. He will tell you when and where he can see you and that is all to it. Not to mention, that there will be a lot of last minute cancellations because of his important family matters and when you manage to connect, most of the time will be spent satisfying his sexual appetite.
You should be faithful. He is sleeping with his wife whenever he feels like it, but you are supposed to be faithful to him, and only him. Shut the front door!!
This is truly a slow suicide (waiting to happen). Ladies, if he really loves you and wants to be with you, he will part ways with his wife (period). However, on the flip side, if he has no intentions of leaving his wife, then he just wants to drain you of your youthfulness, time, beauty, energy, etc., and for what? At the end of the day, if you can’t be number one, you should not settle for number two. Being a mistress is a miserable life (full of pain, disappointments and stress). Life is short, so find something worthy to do with your time!
