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‘Knowing Mandela’ reveals Nelson and Winnie Mandela relationship bombshell

Nelson and Winnie Mandela

Nelson and Winnie Mandela

South African author John Carlin wrote the book Playing the Enemy: Nelson Mandela and the Game That Made a Nation, which was later made into the movie Invictus starring Morgan Freeman as Mandela. Carlin’s new book Knowing Mandela has revealed the reason Mandela never forgave Winnie and cut her out of his will.

In the book, Carlin revealed that Nelson loved Winnie very deeply and wrote sensual and loving letters during is confinement for 27 years. But during that time period Winnie had multiple lovers and was prone to episodes of drunkenness.  This fact was kept from Nelson Mandela during his confinement and after a time when he was released.

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Shortly before Mandela was released from prison she was having an affair with a man named Dali Mpofu, who was 30 years younger than Winnie and one of her lawyers.  Even after Mandela got out of prison, she did not stop the affair. At one point during a visit by Winnie to the United States, Nelson called her private hotel suite and her lover answered the phone. But Winnie later broke off her relationship when she found out Mpofu was cheating on her and got a white lover pregnant.

Carlin writes about a letter Winnie wrote to Mpofu stating, “… Before I am through with you, you are going to learn a bit of honesty and sincerity and know what betrayal of one’s love means to a woman … Remember always how much you have hurt and humiliated me … I keep telling you the situation is deteriorating at home, you are not bothered because you are satisfying yourself every night with a woman. I won’t be your bloody fool, Dali.”

When Nelson Mandela finally divorced his wife in 1996 he told the court “Can I put it simply, my lord? If the entire universe tried to persuade me to reconcile with the defendant, I would not … I am determined to get rid of this marriage.”

Now that Carlin has revealed this information, it is no wonder that Nelson left Winnie nothing in his will.



1 Comment

  1. Shix B on February 11, 2014 at 2:49 pm

    But, why would he? They were divorced. He was more than fair to her when the two divorced?