- Search your soul. Sometimes we get temporary feelings that can result in permanent responsibility. In the example of having children versus not having children, it’s important to understand what exactly has influenced the change in opinion. Does the person really want children, or were they just experiencing a vulnerable moment? It’s quite normal for feelings of vulnerability to creep in from time to time. Really evaluating those feelings from within can make all the difference in figuring out what to do next.
- Have an open dialogue. Part of being in a healthy relationship requires honest communication about difficult topics without judgment. Give your partner a safe place to vent thoughts and feelings that may differ from your own or that you may not agree with.
- Evaluate the relationship. Sometimes a change within a person can represent a larger change that needs to happen within the relationship. It can ignite a person’s true thoughts and feelings, which they may have never known existed before. Taking time to do a check-in can eliminate a world of struggle between a couple. Also, see if this change is something you can compromise on or not. Be honest with yourself to avoid feelings of resentment later. If it’s not something you’re willing to compromise on, then it may be time to have gratitude for the season you had with them and consider parting ways.
There’s no rulebook for when and how people change. In the end, a healthy relationship only works if both people are consistently on the same page, striving toward a common goal. When change happens, embrace it for better or for worse.
For more great tips, advice and answers to life’s burning questions by Monica Bey, go to rollingout.com/monicabey, and be sure to check out her weekly Ask Monica segment on Wednesdays at 2 p.m. on rolling out’s Facebook page.
