Christal: I don’t believe there is ever a situation that warrants dating someone that a friend was in a serious relationship with previously. It’s likely the outside person could have ulterior motives for wanting to date their ex’s friend, even if they aren’t consciously aware of their intent. Getting into a relationship with a friend’s ex can seem exciting, leading to a heightened sense of enjoyment until the reality of the situation sets in.
I think in most cases dating a friend’s ex will result in the original friendship being damaged beyond repair. Often people carry longstanding emotions for the exes even though they are no longer in a relationship with them. This could cause major issues and inevitably often destroy both relationships. When you factor in the likelihood of the relationship not lasting, it doesn’t seem worth the risk. Yes, finding true love is rare, but it’s not so rare that it can’t be found outside your close friend’s ex-lovers.
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