Let’s not forget about our men. The greatest challenge for an expectant father is how to deal with his partner’s miscarriage.
While she’s experiencing the tremendous toll that it takes physically and mentally, men feel the loss as well. They can’t ease your pain, therefore, they feel helpless, hopeless and powerless. The external wounds have healed, but internal battles continue. Commitment to the healing process is essential.
Here are three tips to help your relationship survive after a miscarriage:
Check yourself. It’s not what you say, but how it makes the other person feel. You know the saying, “Hurt people hurt people.” Ladies, this is the one time I’m begging that you use decorum and not lash out because of your grief. Your committed partner is willing to be the sympathetic, reassuring and listening ear to get through this difficulty.
Create a project. You know the old saying, “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” Keep busy. Once you’ve allowed your body to recover, get back to living. Find a project that you two can do together.
Take your time. There will be days when getting out of bed will be a struggle. Just when you think you’ve recovered, grief will show up and have you back to square one. Support each other and above anything else, have patience and faith that your foundation is strong enough to withstand this setback.
When all else fails, reach out to a professional for help. Remember, time heals all wounds.
Anissa D. Blair is an Atlanta-based author and blogger with a passion for writing and being a mother and wife. In her blog, “Straight, No Chaser,” she represents everyday women “just trying to cope doing average s—” and covers all topics — from the good, the bad and the ugly of navigating through life’s obstacles and roadblocks, to building and keeping successful relationships while trying to maintain your sanity. No taboo topics here. You can read her work at rollingout.com/anissa/ and follow her on social media @anissadblair on Instagram and @anissablair on Facebook.
