Posts by Anissa Blair
Black women are victims of an unjust system
Crowds have chanted her name. Social media feeds have been flooded, demanding justice for Breonna Taylor. A call for action is demanded but has fallen on deaf ears. Taylor’s killing has sparked a national conversation about death by the police. The outcry continues, and still no arrest. Last week, her family negotiated a settlement with…
Read MoreGame over: When infidelity causes you to call it quits
From Ray J and Princess Love to Cardi B and Offset, celebrities are calling it quits. While Ray J chose to keep his reasons for divorce private, Cardi filed for divorce saying that the marriage was “irretrievably broken” with no prospects of reconciliation. There’s no mystery that both of these marriages were flawed, with rumors…
Read MoreWhat to do when an ex moves on
What do you do when you see your ex with someone else? This was the love of your life. The thought of the relationship ending never entered your mind. Welp, now it’s front and center. The realization that it’s over feels similar to a pimp slap. Your happily ever after has been replaced with bitterness, hatred…
Read MoreHonoring Chadwick Boseman
In the words of Kendrick Lamar, “But if God got us then we gon’ be alright.” We lost another hero: Chadwick Boseman, the epitome of Black excellence. The bombshell news of his death sent shockwaves around the world. Our Black Panther, who made us believe in Wakanda forever is no longer on this earth. As…
Read MoreVote like your life depends on it
Another Black man has been shot by those sworn to protect and serve. Yet during this turmoil, we are expected to remain calm as we watch our loved ones continue to be slaughtered in the streets. Black Lives Matter, a global movement, has been at the forefront of the push for social justice, freedom and…
Read MoreWhen is enough too much?
Recently Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion were in the headlines again — not about Megan’s gunshot wound to the foot or Cardi’s conversations with politicians but their collaboration and the explicit lyrics in their new single “WAP,” which is #1 on the Billboard Hot 100 charts. The video for the track featured a mansion…
Read MoreDivorced and dating over 40? Tips for finding Mr. Right
Are you ready to date after divorce? We are CEOs of Fortune 500 companies but still can’t figure out the dating game. Have you had a date lately? Don’t use COVID-19 as an excuse as to why the only text messages you’re receiving are from your BFF. Dating after 40 has its challenges, especially if you’re…
Read MoreSigns that your man is a mama’s boy
Does your man call his mother every day? Is she his best friend? If you’ve answered yes to both of those questions, chile, you have a mama’s boy. A mama’s boy is a man who has an excessive attachment to his mother regardless of his age. I’m all for a man having love for his…
Read MoreInterracial dating: What’s good for the goose is good for the gander
Black women, it’s OK to date outside your race. Trust me: You’re not a traitor. Sistas, are you tired of being a baby momma and not a wifey? Our men are leaving us, or rather, have left us and are dating outside their race. Why aren’t you? In my late 20s, I dated this guy…
Read MoreHow you can use the Mamba mentality to live your best life
Have you gotten your s— together yet? Kobe Bryant’s legacy was a reminder to all of us that living your best life is the only option. The path to happiness is attainable with self-discovery and soul searching. I want to believe that you’ve made strides to live your best life. If you’re not there quite…
Read MoreLoving yourself shouldn’t be a hard job
Do you feel like you’re bobbin’ and weavin’ through problems as if you’re in the ring with Mike Tyson? You get one problem solved to only be replaced by two more. Can a sista catch a break? You start questioning your past, looking around the corner to see if karma has finally caught up with…
Read MoreFighting through chaos
I have days when smiling takes work. You know, that feeling of not again, Lord? Am I the only one feeling like a hamster on a wheel, moving fiercely but not making any strides? We can all agree that times have changed, and our once sanctity of continuum has been replaced with unknowns lurking around…
Read MoreBe a force of change in the face of racism
Being a force of change in an atmosphere where anything goes can seem a daunting task and frankly not worth the time and energy. Who wants to feel like their hard work is done in vain? But when that deep-seated spirit speaks to you, what choice do you have? Curl up in a fetal position…
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