Valentine’s Day is a time to shower love on the people close to you. Whether it’s your significant other, family, or a friend, it’s important to celebrate the people who add joy to your life.
There are also some people who decide to spend Valentine’s Day alone, and nothing is wrong with that. Self-love is a powerful tool that everyone should embrace because loving yourself is healthy.
Rolling out spoke with a few people about what self-love means, and got tips for those who may be spending Valentine’s Day solo.
‘You’ll learn a lot about yourself’
“Mantras are nice, motivating, and uplifting but I find diving into hobbies and prioritizing health — mental and physical — work the best for me. Challenging myself and watching myself complete things I put my mind to make me feel accomplished. It also gives me the desire to push myself more. Plus, it’s just fun in the process. It brings me joy and also keeps me from feeling like I’m missing something in my life. Sure, I would like a relationship, but it’s not a front-runner in my mind. If I had to describe it, it’s more of a want and not a need. Not only does focusing on myself and loving myself just make me feel happy and accomplished, it helps me learn how to communicate to others how to love me.
“So my tip for anyone who is ‘alone’ on Valentine’s Day, try something new or do something you’ve been thinking about doing. You’ll learn a lot about yourself.” –Sarah Leacock
‘Addressing your box is the start of your journey’
“I would say self-love is the ability to manage and address your own metaphorical box. We all have a box that has built up negative memories, feelings, and thoughts. Over time, this box has filled up from childhood till adulthood. When this box gets full, we ask ourselves, ‘Why am I not receiving the positive things in life?’ The reason is your box is full. I think that addressing your box is the start of your journey.” –Phillip Quinones
‘We have to love ourselves first to show others how to love us’
“Not celebrating alone but I always encourage people to make it a self-love day. Buy yourself flowers, take yourself to dinner, and do something you love. We have to love ourselves first to show others how to love us!” –Tomika Bryant
‘Self-love puts you in a state of mind where you won’t settle’
“Strengthen yourself to love on yourself enough that you’re not co-dependent on anything or anyone else. I’ve always been somewhat of a needy person and I throw myself into work so that I don’t get bored and don’t long for things that I’m not supposed to have. Self-love puts you in a state of mind where you won’t settle.” –Angie Stone
