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Lupita Nyong’o shares heartbreak post-breakup with Selema Masekela

The actor says her biggest lesson from the breakup is to deal with — not avoid — the hurt from it
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Lupita Nyong’o (Photo credit: Bang Media)

Lupita Nyong’o was “living in a lot of pain and heartbreak” following her split from Selema Masekela.

The actor took to social media in October last year to announce that she and TV host Masekela decided to end their relationship after a year together. Despite her hesitation to share the news, she has now admitted that she ended up being so “moved” by the supportive response of her fans.

“In my mind, when I shared my relationship status with the world, it was because I felt sure about it. I was living in a lot of pain and heartbreak. I looked at the environment of my social media and thought, I don’t want to be a part of this illusion that everything is always coming up roses,” she told Net-a-Porter.

“Surely there is a lesson for me to learn in this, and I just want to be real about it. I knew how it could be interpreted; I knew it would have a life of its own. But then I started to see the comments and people were being so loving and supportive. The ones that moved me the most were other people sharing their pain and their heartbreak,” Nyong’o added.

The Oscar-winning star also explained that she doesn’t need to have an “extreme” in anything to be happy in life and instead “rejoices” when she wakes up without an urge to cry.

“I think what I’ve learned is, I’ve got to just face this thing that I’m going through. I can’t run away from it. And so I am not looking for its opposite right now. I don’t need an extreme to be happy. For me, right now, when I wake up and I don’t feel a bout of tears well up, I rejoice,” Nyong’o said.

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