Ladies, if you’ve never had your heart broken when your man decides to leave the relationship, consider yourself lucky. Pay close attention to the following eight reasons men end the relationship.
- We Listen To Our Friends. Ladies there’s nothing wrong with having a BFF and hanging with your single girlfriends. It’s even ok to talk to them about the relationship, but be very careful about what you decide to bring back from those discussions. Each mate in the relationship should have their own mind and the ability to think for themselves.
- We Involve Our Family. What happens in the relationship, should remain in the relationship. Ladies, if you tell your mother, sister, aunt and cousin about every disagreement that happens, they will eventually get tired of hearing about it. Secondly, they will question your judgement and will not want to be in his and/or your presence.
- We Each Have Our Own Lives. The two of you are not joined at the hip. You don’t have to go every place that he goes and you shouldn’t expect him to follow you everywhere, either. That’s what makes quality time together so special. Before you met, you each had your own lives, hobbies, etc. Ladies, don’t try to make your man your shadow, dragging him to the nail or hair salon, Zumba or anywhere that you’ll be meeting/chatting with your female friends. I’m sure he doesn’t want to sit around and listen to gossip.
- We Clock His Time/Whereabouts. When you’ve been locked up and get out on parole, you are required to provide accountability of your whereabouts and who you’ve been with to your parole officer. However, a relationship should be built on trust, so stop treating him like a prisoner. Ladies, if you make him feel that he’s not trusted, I can guarantee that he won’t be around long, so stop being so insecure.
- Stop Living In the Past. There’s no future in the past. Everyone makes mistakes, but who wants to keep hearing about it (weeks or months later). The most important thing is to learn from them. If he makes a mistake and you’ve decided to forgive him, then do just that and move forward with your relationship. When you continue to bring up the past, then be prepared to talk about your man – in the past tense (your ex-boyfriend).
- His Player Friends. While you may not like some of his friends (more specifically, the players), he knew them before he knew you and is fully aware of their behavior. Don’t feel the need to keep reminding him and speaking negatively of them all the time. This behavior is definitely a sign of insecurity, while showing your man you don’t trust him, as well.
- Stop Being So Negative. If all you have are negative things to say about him, why are you still dating this man? Can he do anything right? No one wants to be criticized or scrutinized for every little thing and will eventually get tired of this behavior and part ways.
- Listen. Ladies, listen to what he has to say. Sometimes we make our mate feel like he doesn’t know what he’s talking about, so give him a chance to speak. It gets under their skin when we make them feel that their opinion doesn’t matter. Do you really think he wants to continue to be around you?
These are just eight, but there are others. If you are an active participant in any of these actions, please stop before it’s too late.
