It was already quite the shocker when Mimi Faust revealed in the season premiere of “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” that she’s now dating a woman named Chris Gould. But fans and cast mates alike got another big shocker during a recent episode when Gould revealed that there are parts of her body that are off limits during sex.
During Monday night’s “LHHA,” Faust and Gould explained to Faust’s BFF, Ariane, that they’re not in a lesbian relationship because Gould identifies as a male. In the clip, Ariane seemed confused by Gould’s explanation of her gender and she refused to acknowledge Gould’s gender identity.
In a new interview, Gould further explained her identity and why she doesn’t consider herself a lesbian.
“I would call myself genderqueer. The reason why I wanted to label the heterosexual-ness of our relationship is because people tend to confuse gender-identity with sexuality and I wanted to make it clear that I identify as masculine and I’m only attracted to feminine women. I like to, as closely as possible, engage in heterosexual activities, if you get my drift. In that respect it’s kinda like you’re trying to make somebody understand something and put it in a box so they can go, ‘Oh, OK, that makes sense. I get it.’ ”
Gould also addressed Ariane’s comments about her, including her choice to continually refer to her as “Christina.”
“Ariane knew of my gender identity prior, so I think the bulk of that was disrespect. In Ariane’s eyes I’m too feminine to be anything else. She thinks I might look too pretty or that I might be too sensitive or I might not sound [like a man,] or I might not look [enough like a man,] so although she is a part of the gay community, she’s kind of a victim to heterosexual standards,” Gould shared.
Gould then took the time to address her controversial explanation of her “touch-me-not” areas, which are zones on her body that Faust isn’t allowed to touch during sex. Gould explains that she understands how some people might not understand her sexual preferences, and how they might be confused about how sex works for her.
“I actually am going to hate that word. Again, it’s like trying to make somebody who’s never seen the moon, see what the moon is. I want you to understand I’m not somebody who wants, [and] this is specific to me, be touched in areas that will remind me mentally that I am biologically female because for me, one of the few moments I’m able to kinda of exhibit my masculinity is sexually. I wish I would have chosen a better term,” Gould said.
Gould also explained that she’s sometimes frustrated sexually because of her bedroom preferences.
“I will agree if anybody else is like me they’re probably just as sexually frustrated as I am. I can tell you that there is a level of mental satisfaction to it. It’s a mental thing. Physically, I don’t know. Being in a place for so long, I don’t know another way,” Gould said.
Well, clearly fans who are unaware of the layers of gender identity that exist in the world are going to learn a lot from Gould, or at least come to some pretty good questions about what gender identity is for different people.