After hearing from matriarch Evelyn Braxton and watching Vincent Herbert plead on social media to keep his marriage intact, Tamar Braxton finally took to Instagram to give an explanation as to why she is going through with her divorce from Herbert – and it is a lengthy explanation, at that.
She said she was tired of staying married only for “face value” and revealed that at some point, Vince told her to “get the f— out.”
“Sometimes we stay ‘married’ for face value or to say ‘we did it’ but the truth is..it couldn’t be more broken & further apart than we are NOW!..even on an anniversary!” Tamar captioned her post.
“You can say he did this, she did that, I put up with ‘this’ & I’ve suffered & endured ‘this’ for so long…but the TRUTH is that this was your choice 2 stay,” she added.
“We get so caught up in WE are ‘winning’ in love that we are LOSING a battle that doesn’t have ANYTHING 2 do with us! I decided I didn’t want to be married for the sake of saying so.”
She continued, “Is it ok that he checks up on u when his phone(s) R stuck to him like glue? Is it ok that his friends are HIS friends but my friends are ‘our’ friends? Or, we fight but that’s ‘passion’ let’s get deep for a second..we can argue & u can tell me to gtf out of ‘your’ house when I’m the house of cards? None of this is ok…& while I’m not pushing anyone out of the door…I’m just telling you what has pushed me out of mine! That LAST time was the LAST time.”
The pair, who share a 4-year-old son, Logan, called it quits at the end of October after nearly nine years together.
Read her entire post below:
Thank God this is HIS purpose..yes I just dropped #bluebirdofhappiness &Tamar &Vince is coming back on Thursday but on GOD this has NOTHING to do with ME or a JOB!!.here is the thing,& MY truth..you don’t have to like me & while I’m woke,I can see that most of you don’t now..even when you did.?something has changed w/her..but it’s ok, because I don’t..well,didn’t like me either.I told myself I would do whatever it took to keep my family together,to see a smile on someone who has seen us smile on their face hoping we could offer them hope,faith,Love& dignity that I️ once possessed. But the truth is all of those things are NOT within the marriage of Tamar & Vince?ﾟﾏﾽ♀ ..at least not anymore.married people who are reading will know what I mean.
Sometimes we stay”married”for face value or to say”we did it”?ﾟﾏﾾbut the truth is..it couldn’t be more broken &further apart than we are NOW!..even on an anniversary! You can say he did this,she did that,I️ put up with”this”& I’ve suffered & endured”this”for so long..but the TRUTH is that this was your choice2 stay?ﾟﾏﾽ♀we get so caught up in WE are”winning”in love that we are LOSING a battle that doesn’t have ANYTHING 2 do with us! I️ decided I didn’t want to be married for the sake of saying so.
I wanted to have a relationship.Someone to share my/our dreams,our successes, our failures,our past,present & future with..& not finding out shit online?ﾟﾏﾽ♀..some of us ?ﾟﾏﾽhave been living a LIE!..& sometimes when things R shared, what’s NOT being surfaced is that he has one or several girlfriends,or she’s never home,or he’s very general when he speaks,or “this doesn’t sound like him”? or he’s so busy lately!!.etc.etc..u have to think to yourself?When is enough enough? Is it ok that he checks up on u when his phone(s) R stuck to him like glue?Is it ok that his friends are HIS friends but my friends are “our” friends? Or, we fight but that’s “passion”❌ let’s get deep for a second..we can argue & u can tell me to gtf out of “your”house when I’m the house of cards?None of this is ok..& while I’m not pushing anyone out of the door..I’m just telling you what has pushed me out of mine!That LAST time was the LAST time?ﾟﾏﾽ
