Relation-tips: Should exes have a say about your new bae?

Relation-tips: Should exes have a say about your new bae?
Niecy Nash and husband Jay Tucker (Photo credit: Shutterstock.com / S_Buckley)

Question: Niecy Nash was talking about her divorce from husband Jay Tucker and mentioned that they will remain great friends and she would love to interview women to be his next girlfriend. Few people know you better than your ex. Do you think that exes should be able to offer any input about your new love interests?

Terry: When I read the headline I was immediately confused because I don’t see any reason for a man’s ex-wife to have input about the man selecting the next woman he gets into a relationship with. I honestly don’t understand the logic behind that statement.


I think it’s great that they decided to divorce amicably, but this seems to be going a little bit too far. This unusual dating scenario will make it very difficult for him to find a woman and actually have an honest shot at the relationship succeeding. But that could very well be the underlying motive for this decision. I mean what woman is going to take a man seriously if she needs his ex-wife’s stamp of approval to even date him? That sounds like an epic fail waiting to happen.

Christal:  First of all, we have to applaud Nash and her very attractive ex-husband for managing to divorce without trashing each other in the press. I think she is still feeling territorial about her ex, and that’s why she wants to be involved in his next chapter.


It’s true that exes often know us best, but I believe each person brings something different out of another person, so there is nothing that would suggest she would understand the new dynamic between her ex-husband and his new girlfriend. For many women, even if you don’t want to be with your ex anymore, it’s hard to imagine him moving on and being happy with another woman — but it’s bound to happen. My advice would be to make peace with it and focus on interviewing candidates for your next boo and leave your ex to handle or her own affairs.

If you have a question you would like to see featured in “Relation-tips,” email it to [email protected]. You can follow relationship expert Terry Deron at @terryderon and rolling out’s Relationships Editor Christal Jordan at @enchantedpr.

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Dr. Christal D. Jordan Jennings is a journalist and professional entertainment publicist with several years of experience in celebrity marketing and branding. Jordan worked in the corporate PR sector before relocating to Atlanta, GA and founding Enchanted Branding and Public Relations in 2008. The company specializes in public relations strategy, media training/consultation, and crisis communication in service of notable celebrity talent such as TLC’s Chilli, Roy Jones Jr.,Kenan Thompson, and more. Further, Jordan serves as a journalist. She serves as editor-in-chief for Lenox & Parker, Sr. Editor with with Rolling Out and Sr. Features writer with Collider, where she specializes in stories that emphasize the importance of empowering women. Jordan earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in Organizational Communications and her Master of Arts in Mass Communications from the University of Oklahoma. Most recently, Jordan started a YouTube channel pulling from her own experiences with celebrity endorsement and strategic relationships. The channel, entitled From Christal with Love XO, boasts over 27k subscribers and works to celebrate love and relationships from a progressive lens. She is also the host of Fox 5 Atlanta’s bi-weekly segment on celebrity relationships. After twenty years of notable stellar contributions in journalism, public relations and literature, Christal received an honorary doctoral degree in Literary Studies from TIUA in June 2024.
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