Recognize there’s a problem. Awareness is the first step. Does this relationship zap you of all your energy?
Discover the lesson. So what you’ve invested 10 years into this commitment. Rather than looking at the failed relationship as a waste of time, determine what you should have learned from it. What did this person teach you? In life, lessons will repeat themselves until you choose to learn from them.
Don’t double-dip. Yes, I know he or she gave you mind-blowing sex in the bedroom, but you can’t move on from the relationship by maintaining a sexual liaison with your ex.
Let go of the reminders. It’s tempting to hang on to old pictures and text messages. Doing so prevents you from moving on with your life. If you must keep them, put them out of sight.
Get yourself together. It’s time to shift the focus to you. You’re past due for cultivating self-love and respect. Remember, you’re worthy of love and deserve a healthy connection.
Forgive. Release any feelings of guilt that encompassed the commitment. Let the past be the past. Also, forgive your former partner as well. Resentment will hold you back and prevent you from being your best you.
Ending a relationship doesn’t mean you’ve failed. In reality, breakups provide the opportunity for a new and improved life.
Anissa D. Blair is an Atlanta-based author and blogger with a passion for writing and being a mother and wife. In her blog, “Straight, No Chaser,” she represents everyday women “just trying to cope doing average s—” and covers all topics — from the good, the bad and the ugly of navigating through life’s obstacles and roadblocks, to building and keeping successful relationships while trying to maintain your sanity. No taboo topics here. You can read her work at rollingout.com/anissa/ and follow her on social media @anissadblair on Instagram, @anissablair on Facebook and Blended In Love on YouTube.
